You are so right, not everything needs to be known. We may be on a public forum and that doesn't mean we have to bear our souls or our beliefs.
Evidently you are determined to miss the point, which is understandable. No doubt that's a comforting thought to those who have been gulled into compromising their humanity. Again, I've never seen you do it at all; and I'm pretty sure if you did, your claim to "always speak for those who can't speak for themselves" would be exposed as flaming hypocrisy. To be sure - though one can hardly help noticing that people often end up doing it in the attempt to justify themselves, rather than out of any sense of obligation to be transparent.
Why does it matter to you? What difference does someone's beliefs matter to you? It isn't going to make or break you get over it.
Pretty strange questions to be asking on a debate board. How the hell is it any of your business whether I "get over it" or not?
You sure seem to be one of the people I was referring to in my opening post. Are you always so difficult?
Is you or them? Need more information to make an informed assessment. Based upon the limited info offered, here is my argument. Once one comes to understand that how one judges another says more about the judge than the judged, it really changes how one views judgment from others and how we in turn judge others. Personally it bugs me when someone on the bus wants to be chatty and all they seem to want to talk about is how messed up their life is. To me the only reason to focus on the negative is in an effort to resolve the negative, which rightly or wrongly I get the impression that the rant that I am subjected to on my bus ride is just to vent and I am the person that they picked to dump all their drama on. So what are my options? Well I could politely (or abruptly) tell them that I have my own issues and am not interested in hearing theirs, or I can see them as suffering and if I step outside myself in an altruistic fashion then perhaps I can make another's world a little better, if only for a short time. So my point is that our perspective is ours to control. If one does not like their current reality then all one need to do is change their perspective and by extension their reality... a simple concept that is not always easy to achieve. Great thread by the way, thanks for starting it!
I like your new profile photo, Chris. I notice you aren't looking at the camera. As for the thread, I'm not sure there really are types of people. I have met people I assumed were conceited "types" and they turned out to be very self-effacing. Seemingly cold people have proved to be among the most solicitous and compassionate. Seemingly "bad" people have done me and others big favors with no expectation of reciprocation. Maybe I misjudged them on first impression, maybe they have more than one facet to their personalities, maybe they have good days and bad days. I don't know everything -- it just seems that way. But if I had to pick, I'd say preachy, judgmental "types" that tell me what I should and shouldn't do. And it's funny that left wingers, who tell me who I have to vote for, can be just as preachy as right wingers.
Is the person overtly offensive or single you out for ridicule? If not, then can you be more specific? I apologize is you have previously answered this.
This is true. There were a couple of people that ended up being good friends of mine that I didn't like at first, but that was when I was a kid. Since then, I've met lots and lots of people, and I've definitely noticed certain patterns with some people who seem to have certain personality types. It's almost like I can sometimes meet a person and be like "oh, I've met YOU before." Lol. It's happened the other way around too, where I've met a person and liked that person and the more I got to know about the person, the less I wanted to be around that person. My issues with other people usually have nothing to do with politics. I have to say that a lot of times, "outside" influences may affect the way these types of people might interact, such as drugs or alcohol. That is always a red flag though.
No, I just don't like him. He brags a lot, and there is really not much to brag about. He lies (I know he does). Just his entire personality is a turn off to me.
Lol! It's a friend of a friend of mine who I, unfortunately, find myself in some social situations with. I hate having to talk to him! It's all I can do to keep from rolling my eyes or just telling him off.
I started to ask why you consider this person a friend if you a) hate talking to him and b) find it unfortunate to be in social situations with him. But I actually have a friend like that as well. Long story. You go first.
In this specific case, is it you or the other who is responsible for your being pissed off? I argue that if you blame the other for your being pissed off then you will continue to be pissed off when the person tells you "it's not so bad". It gives the other a measure of control over your feelings does it not? Seneca the younger argued that in part our anger comes from other not doing what we want them to do. Seneca goes on to argue that once one comes to understand that one cannot control others, then the simplest solution is to change our perspective. I think Seneca would say that once you understand that you cannot change others, and once you understand that inexorably the person who bothers you will continue to behave in an objectionable manner, then you have to choose to always be pissed off when the person acts in an objectionable way, or to just accept the person the way they are and not let it get to you. I argue that our need to control the uncontrollable is a prime source of our anger and all it's corrosive effects. Just my POV for what it is worth.
The next time he's around and no one else can hear you, stare into a corner of the room and under your breath say "no Mother, I will NOT". Then look him in the eyes and smile. Then pull one of your hairs out and start flossing with it. Problem solved.
