So I finally got an office job, what is up with catty office women?

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  1. BarleyPopGuy

    BarleyPopGuy Banned

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    I am lucky, there are only 5 of us in our dept. I can see that if we had 10 or more; which would be nice to get to.
     
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    Good advice.

    My wife has been an office worker for 40 years, and, believe me, she has seen it ALL.

    Never take sides on personal matters.
    Know your company's policies about interpersonal behavior in the office.
    Document any complaints from one employee about another, and make sure your boss gets a copy.
    Consult with your boss before confronting any employee about their behavior.
    And, if it's necessary to confront an employee about their behavior, have a witness, preferably your boss or someone from your Personnel Department if you have one.

    Good luck ... :roll:

    Seth
     
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  3. BarleyPopGuy

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    Thanks Seth, good advice. We are a small company, less than 50 employees so I think we avoid some HR rules that the FED requires.
     
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    It is simple, stay out of the gossip and do not try to be pals. Do your job, nothing else, nothing less. NEVER socialize after hours, never make a negative comment about one to another. Otherwise, don't worry about, just don't join it. Be assured they all talk about you, and absolutely don't wonder what that is and if you hear something ignore it.
     
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    I got this, I think...lol Not sure cause I am too ready for bed to check but I think my OP was what is up with these office women? The advice is very well appreciated.
     
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    I've been where you are and wish I had called a meeting and told them in certain words that their behavior was disgusting and it will no longer be tolerated. Hoping you have that kind of authority, enforce it.
     
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    Even many of the women I work with prefer to work with men instead of other women.
     
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    Have you lived in the south (US)? I hear you Capt but it is different here.
     
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    I would hypothesize that it's to alleviate the boredom of work and maybe of life in general. People tend to seek and create drama even if they think they hate it.
     
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    :roflol:I haven't heard that expression since watching a James Cagney movie. I've often wondered how the word came about and what it refers to.
     
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    It's racist misogynistic mansplaining patriarchy.
     
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    Couldn't find a clip but if you've seen Charlie Wilson's War that's how to run an office with Women ;)
     
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    I had a rule in my company. Well, kind of unwritten, but written, if you can conceive the difference.

    If a discussion requires just two people behind closed doors, don't have it. Always have a witness, and don't play the gossip game.

    The victim may become a boss one day.....
     
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    In the UK if you said that you would be sued and bankrupt in 6 months.
     
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    Frank Sinatra always used that word along with 'dames'..
     
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    My general observation is women basically talk about things that make you think too hard. Its mentally draining. After a while you feel like you need to go outside and have a cigarette and you don't even smoke.

    Guys are more fun. They get pissed off and can ram a plow bar though someone's truck door. Then someone walks away the Alpha. Everyone else has fun watching that happen like its no big deal, lets get some work done and clown around doing it.
     
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    I'm PF's Alpha. :nod: :cool:
     
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    Doing group assignments in uni with a majority female group was annoying as hell because not only were they against the brilliant ideas of meeting up after lunch (they always wanted to meet up at sunrise) and/or just do the readings and freestyle the presentation (absolutely unthinkable), but also did they never get anything done. They wanted to meet up in the morning, but the first few hours were always spent talking crap about other group members, reviewing the last episode of some trashy soap and pointing fingers at the strangers around us... And they actually expected me to join in. :no: :laughing:

    It was always easier with an all-guys group; then you could just agree on who reads what parts and then just freestyle a presentation. If you were in a group of an uneven gender ratio, say two guys and one girl, the girl usually became extremely passive and expected us, guys, to take the lead and whenever we were joking around with each other, she'd tell us to "stop fighting" . :laughing:

    Female collegues still do the backstabbing thingy and just seem generally more vicious than tjeir male counterparts. :p
     
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    They're very different to us, it's undeniable. The only thing I envy them for is they can multi-task. For instance they can fry an :sunnysideup: and make the :toast: to put it on at the same time.
     
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    You didn't make it clear whether the cats are being catty in relation to your assistant, just that you link their cattiness to the attractiveness of her.
     
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    I have a piece paper Alpha's arch enemy ;)
     
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    What? [​IMG]
     
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    Multitasking is a myth imo.
     
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    Yeah, I've never believed it either.
     

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