Asexuals are fighting for representation too

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  1. crank

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    Yeah, it does. It's a pathological level of low confidence precipitating a fear of intimacy. And it's this fear of intimacy which is interpreted as low or nil libido.

    Misfit kids just to like to call it Asexuality because they think it makes them seem cool.
     
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    Neither does being asexual.

    What you were talking about is a personality disorder.
     
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    True asexuals are overly shy people or straight out weirdos who are rationalising their problems connecting romantically by identifying with a silly label.
     
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    This is it 100%
     
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    As someone who has experience with bad self-esteem, I can tell you it is absolutely tormenting and has a very negative effect on your dating life. I can see why people would seek comfort in a sexuality label because it convinces them that they are how they are from birth and that there is nothing they can do to change it -- "I have an irrational fear of rejection" becomes "I am just asexual, that's why I don't have a girlfriend" and, of course, the latter releases more stress and is the easy way out... For the moment.

    My solution was equally bad, but it was not one of finding belonging in a social identity. I convinced myself it was objectively needless for me to approach girls because it was objectively evident that no one could possibly desire me. However, my method was the same as that of pulling on the "asexuality jacket" and that is one of avoiding the real problem.

    It is a very dangerous game to play.
     
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    There might be proof that people are born asexual like people are born gay, straight, or bi.
     
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    sexuality has to do with reproductive organs. That is why women wear tops.
     
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    No there isn't. Humans aren't asexual. That is just a disinterest in sex.
     
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    both merriams and eng-oxford dictionaries define 'asexual' as both lacking sexual organs and being disinterested in sex. look it up
     
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    People say that people arent born gay because most twins of a gay person are not gay. But there is other evidence that people are born gay.
     
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    The shyness that leads to a disinterest in sex might be genetic, but I dont think people are inborn asexuals like people are inborn gay or straight or bisexual.
     
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    I'm not sure if people are born gay, sexuality normally doesn't develop to noticable levels until a person is a number of years old.
     
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    There is no such thing as an asexual person. They are just disinterested in sex.
     
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    Sexual orientation is on hormones, same as genfer, rbut they are not the same thing.
     
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    meaning they didnt consciously decide to have a relationship with a person of the same sex. I think homosexuality is a choice for women but inborn for men. Born gay or not, people can still change if they ask God to help them.
     
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    And if God doesn't help them it means he doesn't love them.

    Why would you repeat such a vicious slander if God?
     
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    Not so. Breasts aren't 'sexual' in many cultures (hence no tops).
     
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    Some people can't grasp the concept that words evolve and are used in different context with different meanings.
     
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    I suspect a lot of the people who think they are "transgender" are not truly inherently transgender in orientation.

    In other words, just because something might theoretically exist does not mean it applies for the majority of the people who claim it.
     
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    First off, as the one poster said, covering the breasts is not universal. Secondly, breasts are not reproductive organs. They play no role in procreation. Third, sexuality is about what attracts you. For some people it is what's between the legs, or at least what they expect to be there. They can be attracted to what they initially see, but when they find out, the equipment doesn't match their expectations, the attraction goes away. For others, it purely what they see, and revealing equipment they don't expect does nothing to change the attraction, or lack thereof.
     
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    Why not? Just as the switch can end up on one side or the other or stuck in the middle, why can't there be a condition where the power never got turned on?
     
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    It's not a choice for women any more than it is for men. Now it might be easier for a woman to engage in actions with a partner opposite her attractions, but that's not the same as what attracts her.

    So then God can also change their other innate traits?
     
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    Why would it be easier?

    God cant take away a straight person's innate weakness itself for lust, but that person can still choose to not do things that are against God's will, like live together without being married.
     
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    There might be, but its an endless genealogy.
     

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