Rum is amazing. Especially with Dr. Pepper. Because I am not cool enough to enjoy straight hard alcohol... unless it is Crown... then it is on like donkey kong. Especially when in four hours I get up for work. Then have night classes for wildland fire certification. Then stay up until 2am talking to a woman I met not too long ago... but.... So a the question of the night inspired by anonymity because the people I know don't understand my hang up, how the hell do you get over someone? For the last year I haven't figured it out, even with the negativity and cynicism injected into that area, to no avail. I would be easier to just turn it off and hate her but I can't. Over the summer I realized the extent of this feeling, and had a *very* difficult time dealing with it once that revelation washed over me. I mean, am I am I idolizing this particular person, or is it a genuine feeling? Or lack of points of reference because I don't input effort (I spend a great deal of time on music as I view that as a greater benefit compared to dating)? Am I hung up as a first love or sorts (seriously, out of all of my girlfriends, this amazing woman crosses my mind everyday, I just don't care about the others), or a genuine feeling? Why am I hung up on someone who couldn't accept me (when I loved her for her) as me and wanted me to be something else? Why do I compare my current prospects to her? Why did I do things to be total dick? I am in change of the music (30 songs to be played live and such, should be a blast) for a friend's wedding, and (*)(*)(*)(*)ing Mayanrd frikken hell, she is going to be there. *******nit. (*)(*)(*)(*). Meh. I imagine I will wake up in the morning and see a series of notifications and think "what the (*)(*)(*)(*) Evan" when looking at this thread. Meh.
I mean, what is wrong with all encompassing beliefs? Why do you need all the fear induced bull(*)(*)(*)(*) introduced by Christianity or other like religions? There is no love in fear. How can any belief system that requires the rejection of love be beneficial? All such beliefs will be the end of humanity, and the planet in terms of nuclear weapons... skip to 0:35 as Our Lost Guide, Bill Hicks sums everything up. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xq4Srd0P2k0
Haha I take it you are a bit drunk at the moment Wolvie? I do enjoy rum and D.P. myself from time to time, although I quit drinking a little while ago because I got tired of blowing my money away and waking up hung over. Anyways you sound a lot like my best friend who is getting married this year. She was very in love with a man that she dated for 6 years. They had a falling out in her early 20s and he moved out of state. She dated on and off and had too many flings to count with a lot of stupid guys and even some decent ones who genuinely cared for her, but she could never get past that long and loving relationship she once had. She held every man she dated to standards they could never reach and put her one true love on a pedestal in her heart. Well as it turns out they reconnected two years later, he moved back here to AZ and they are due to be married in October. It seems they really were meant for each other, though they are not perfect by any means. He still does things that irk her and likewise with her to him and they have their occasional spats. Not saying you will ever end up with this girl again, I certainly don't know what the chances of that are, but a lot can change after a few years apart. Who knows what will happen. Regardless though it sounds like you need to let down your defenses and learn that no other woman will be her and they will not always meet your expectations or standards. You may even be pushing away a really good woman who cares a lot for you and who you might find yourself able to love just as much in return if you are ever able to mend your broken heart. =) I know that all sounds so sappy and cheesy but I find it to be true a lot of the time.
You sound like a female right now! You are definately a victim of emotions dominating your point of view like a women right now. The answer to your question is that everyone wants what they can't have. You would get back together with her, and realize you were drooling over a mirage! - - - Updated - - - Read this again man, and tell me if you haven't identified the problem Wolverine.
8-l Yeah, I was *a little drunk, totally forgot about this (*)(*)(*)(*). Apparently I was able to use the spell check.
If you want to know how to get over somebody, I can tell you. But you're probably not going to do it. Because it's counter-intuitive. Even though it works extremely well. Go out and have sex with ten new girls. Chances are you won't even make it to number ten before the one you were hung up on stops seeming so special. What you don't realize is that it's not the girl that you're hung up on. You're hung up on the feelings you experienced that you attributed to her. Once you realize that you can experience those same feelings with other people, she won't seem so special anymore. It kind of ruins the illusion of "soul mates," but it works like a charm.
Rum is horrible. That pirate got the best of me, the handful of times I've tangled with him. If you need a good heartbreak booze, stick with Jack. It works sixty percent Of the time, all the time.
Which brings me to my next post: Just when you think all is lost, someone drops into your life. - - - Updated - - - *gags Crown. Crown. Crown. Crown is one of the few liquors I can drink straight and enjoy.
