My phone drives her nuts. A crazy neighbor? What to do?

Why you even care what Dottie say's I have no idea??

AA

 

Just to add....I would suggest you practice and develop what I call......THE STARE.

It's that look that I give people who are acting and saying things with complete idiocy.

I have mine down pat and I can with just a look freeze an individual in their tracks and stop them from talking.

Once you get good enough at that let me know and then I will teach you the.....SMILE.

It's that smile that so unnerves a person that no matter what B.S. they are saying to you or doing to you they will stop....shift their weight from leg to leg....swallow....and then mumble something like..."Never mind..."...and then they will quickly walk away!! LOL!!

AA

 

Sure do

 

Take one of those curly phone cords and walk around with it hanging out of your pocket. When she sees it, tell her that you no longer carry around your cordless phone. Now you carry a phoneless cord!!!

 

Better yet....buy a Drone with a video camera and fly it around her home!! LOL!!!

AA

 

That's true. People like her can be very unpredictable and I tho't of dementia kicking in, but .....who knows? Haven't seen her for a couple days now, so it's been normal around my home anyway.

And yeah, I still take my phone outside w/me and will keep doing so.

 

Yep, we had a renter try to gouge my wife's eyes out. Seemingly the nicest person but....
Sorry, MY eyes were opened that day. Crazy is crazy....There is no rational explanation...be careful. I would advise against taunting her. Normal morals and rules may not apply. Stay safe.....

 

Now see....when it comes to me although I will do my best to avoid a fight as life is just too short....when it comes to me feeling happy and comfortable in my own home.....well I guess this is why I own a home out in the country....BUT.....before that if some one or some neighbor was being a pain in the ass and I found myself trying to avoid that person or cringing every time they asked to talk to me......I decided to just confront the problem.

If I confronted the problem and if this person or neighbor was not discussing the problem in a rational manner and just resorting to argument and accusations and just acting crazy.....I found I could resolve the issue by OUT CRAZYING THE CRAZY!!!

If they act unstable.....be twice as unstable.....if they are talking gibberish.....out jibber the jibberish.....if they are accusing you of something completely insane and untrue......just out of the blue pick a relative and accuse them or their spouse of making sexual advances upon your relative!

LOL!!!

Now of course YOU are the sane one so your not actually going to bring up charges.....but it will put them off balance to such a degree they will avoid you at all costs!!

AA

 

Where is this woman's family? They should be made aware that she is acting strangely and may need professional help?

 

You know....although that is a good idea you have to be prepared for the family turning on you even if it is true.

People are funny in that even if a family member of their own is acting crazy and even if that family member is in the wrong some people will back up that family member no matter how crazy they are.

So although it's worth a try.....you need to be prepared for the worse!

AA

 

Simple reality dictates that ALL women are unstable and borderline insane to male perceptions....however, each has their own version and level of this as well as individual pushbuttons that need to be found, avoided, and understood.

 

LOL!!!

AA

 

Thank you, tecoyah. I needed a good guffaw today and you have come through for me.

 

Alpha, with my head I understand and agree with what you are saying. But my heart melts for people who are in pain. Clearly this woman is ill and living in fear. Dangerous or no, I would need to step in and do something to help her.

 

I'd say ignore her but it sounds like that won't work.

One thing I'll say that a lot of people don't really think about is that training people is like training a dog. Use positive and negative reinforcement. In this case, the idea is to make her subconsciously recognize a trigger, like that every time she talks about your phone you say something mean that saddens her - and before long she stops bothering about your phone.

It seems cold, but I've done it a few times before and it worked, from my perspective. I have a group I game with that's all over the board politically, and while we don't go for political discussion all the time we get along fine when we do. The exception is J - he's a complete *** and insults anyone who disagrees with him, and talks over anyone, and the saddest part is thay I'm not sure he realizes it. But one day he was doing this, and I just insulted him outright. It threw him off his rant and he said that it wasn't fair, and I told him yes it absolutely is and then told him the ways that the insult is definitely true.

I think it hurt him, but he stopped talking about politics (at least when I'm around) and we've been able to better appreciate our time becauze he doesn't.

 

Sweetie I am Genetically Hardwired to protect people and especially women.

But here is the thing.....there is nothing wrong in trying to help someone but ALWAYS be prepared for a angry and possible violent reaction from those you try to help.

I was taught this a long time ago and I have experienced it many many times.

Problems occur when the person who is offering help get's either emotionally hurt, offended or even violently attacked and injured or even killed by such people.

My best advice to you is that if you are compelled to do it....bring a strong and very physically capable man with you. Some one who had had experiences with such things.

Now I KNOW.....that some female members might take offense at my suggestion and that is OK because I will protect them as well.

Besides....those members who know me know I am a Feminist.

AA

 

When it comes to testing my patience, it all depends upon the situation. With Dottie, the 3rd time around would be the limit. Yesterday she approached me and I braced myself b/c my phone was in my pocket, she saw it but didn't say a word about it, so m/b it's over with - I hope. I hate feuding and bickering w/people....especially about stupid things like having my PHONE w/me?! Well, that just won't happen.

My opinion about cell phones is the same about electric scooters - it's one of the best inventions made, but also one of the worst....w/the scooters, once that person gets in one, they stop walking when they are still capable of walking, then they blow up.

Cell phones are great for those traveling - particularly a woman traveling alone; teenagers away from home, they run into trouble, they can call 911, parents. Even out shopping, you can stay in touch w/your home base, if necessary, etc.......but they're WAY over-used.

 

Oh, they're very good pals. Dottie adores Sally, but what's sad about that is Dottie would sit down and cry if she knew what Sally has said about her behind her back.....and I'm not going to tell her.

That's the part of womanhood that I detest - the 2-faced cattiness that many have - not all of us, but to many are.

 

Lol~ you're funny. Yeah, I can just visualize you doing this.....what movie did you learn this from? Lol.........

 

I look at this pix and I laugh - yes! I have pocket-sized binoculars and I just might do that. Sit at my lawn table and watch the neighborhood, focused on a particular few and Dottie will see me and come a visiting!

That will be such a temptation........thank you for the idea.

 

I didn't learn this from a movie.

The STARE....I learned from my Mom.

The SMILE....I learned from my Dad.

Both work very well.

AA

 

LOLOLOL! Sounds like you had very wise parents. What a lucky kid you were.........lol.

 

Well.....my Dad was/is Military because as an Officer you are never out.

My Mom was/is...."CIVILIAN".....just like I am.

I was accurate with my Dad's throwing knives by the ripe age of 7 and I could shoot bulls-eye's with Compound and Recurve Bow, Rifle, Shotgun with slug, and handgun by the time I was 8.

They were VERY tough on me.

But I learned a LOT from them.

AA

 

You were raised in both worlds of military and civilian and as long as you weren't beaten and abused, sounds like you had good parenting. From what I recall of your posts, you turned out well-balanced, even w/your stare and smile......lol.

 

Thank you.

But I don't really think you understood what I meant as far as being a..."CIVILIAN".

I am a..."CIVILIAN"....as the quotes denote and my Mom's JOB was for a time to keep track of Nuclear Weapons at a massive U.S. Air Force SAC base in Western Massachusetts,

This base is so large it was an alternate emergency landing site for the Space Shuttle.

If you still don't understand send me a PM and I will explain.

AA