Composure, body language and a bit of dancing.

These things people often say you got it or you don't, yes? What if I told you I have seen people's lives transformed by trying new things out of character? That makes sense, if you want to learn to dance, you begin somewhere, and, it adds to your cultural vocabulary, of course.

Let's begin with 'composure?' This would be the air of authority you have on the scene, how much of a presence you have with what is going on, with your body language too, in a social setting, or, even with animals and all to yourself. This would be where you take the lead and play a role, even if you are not saying anything, you still 'bring it.'

Maybe this is down to your own personal energies? Maybe it has to do with beauty? Maybe it has to do with social status, or, what you or others think of your renown and so forth? Either way, some people bring an aura of interest to themselves, and, others less so.

If you really think about it, sometimes people need to be aware of you and other times not. This could be like signing a form, when you are not there, and maybe seeing your graffiti on a wall, for example, where you carry your own energies into your 'wall art.'

So far we can say that these things are obviously sometimes you can drop and pick up, and, will see lots of good things happen to you from a character point of view - you will become a greater personality - if you sample 'other types of energies.'

 

If we were to think about it, composure is all about energy. Your body gives off energy, so, it could be 'stress' or 'joy,' of course. These feelings will resonate with others or affect them in certain ways, making them scared, at peace, loving or a variety of other emotions too. This is sort of like mood rings, where the amount of heat we are giving off is our aura, and, the emotion we are giving off is the level of heat, of course. So, you could say you are like a heater or fridge, where you affect others with your own personal energies. This would affect their own heat levels, and, that affects nerves, and, as we all know, we all want to feel cool or warm, not hot or cold!

Now, if we were to think about the 'role model it factor,' you are either what you see, or, you are the opposite of what you see, or, you are uninterested or unaware, yes? This would lead to you taking role models, one way or the other, especially in youth, in everything you do. This leads to a 'personal image,' and, the more energy of this sort you give off is how in tune with it you feel. Of course, the more secure you feel in your surroundings, the less heat you give off at a 'angry frequency,' and, the less joy you feel will lead to more heat, logically.

This of course leads to a mingling of energies - yes, chemistry! Chemistry was often referred to as a mixture of elements, and, if you were to observe that similar energies bring about increases in that product, then you could compliment each other. Of course, the more you feel a certain type of energy, the more your body will like it or not, and, this is down to comfort zones. While everybody wants to feel happy, there is the socio factor of looking stupid - that is what I call it! - and not displaying an air of authority through being too friendly and lowering your defences and then you will feel stupid, yes? This makes us like people to our own level of security and then take on similar energies to them, as we copy them or deny things to do with them.

 

While that is all very well and good, how do we become popular with the air of authority? Well, I have always believed that popularity comes down to a slant of authority over authority, where the boss, for example, will be popular, his secretary that has him engrossed in her cleavage and people realize this will be more popular, and, the tuck shop lady that organizes people after hours snacks will be even more popular, yes? Then, there is the guy that mocks the logic of plans in meetings that the other managers put together that will display an authority over authority, where the boss would cede to his x factor, and, he would be popular, yes?

All these things I have already covered, and, summed up right now for you. But, when it comes down to composure, a tenet of this topic, then there is room for improvement for what we all know, of course. So, what is composure? I would post an ante that it is down to body language and energy, of course, but there has to be more to it.

Maybe it has to do with timing and mood? If you are calm you will exhibit 'a display' of confidence, where doubt is left out, and it is apparent on your actions... This could be about dismissing doubt, arrogance, pig headedness and apathy to problems? This could also be a 'hippy happy clappy,' distant and removed from problems of the now, scene or even self or company around them.

I know, it is coldness! You know how you get cold people that do not care, the less you care, the cooler you are. This would be similar to putting yourself first and being selfish, or, even 'trying to be cold.' In cold, I mean that you are hard to the plight of others - think of a typical person walking into a shopping mall, where they are greeted and do not greet back... wait, that is not very composed! Maybe this is wrong so far, maybe you need to just 'ignore' them?

Of course, as soon as you put outgoing energy into an impulse for others to feel, where you worry about them, or what they think of you, more than what you think of yourself, you would give off 'warmth.' This would be the same as a person with socio problems in the form of a few pimples and fatness and so forth arriving on the scene - they might be worried about fitting in rather than standing out, yes? On the other hand, the 'nerd' could give off a good vibe or warmth to others and this could lead to them sensing that they like them, actually this is innocence, of course! You need to be crafty to have great composure, I reckon.

 

How do you program your body to give off a sexy image, you might ask? Well, with sex appeal, it comes, as the women say to men, from confidence, and, I imagine as a man that the same could be true for women to men? Think of someone that fills you with the same energy - women seek security, as, they are social animals more than men, seeking togetherness through community and strength of company - that they display strengths in societies they live in, for example.

So, sex appeal, like love, is based on strength. Being true to yourself is one way to add an air of authenticity to the meeting, but lying and cheating and stealing, while it breeds paranoia, will bring about confidence in doing these things, also sexy, yes?

 

Have you ever worried about the image you project when you walk into a room, only to feel yourself choke when you enter, inside? Have you ever, conversely, felt yourself plunge into the room like a predator? These extremes are when we get it right - everybody feels it, as, it is the energy we give off - it is a release from you to others, like a spoken word or sentence, of course.

The way to avoid choking when you enter a scene is to 'push gently.' If you go too hard, you will get stiff and that would be bad. Obviously if you are to relaxed you will also give off too gentle a vibe. Yo be 'firm' would do the trick!

Body language is down to being receptive - the more you open up, the more the other's will. This is because every scene, like the human body, seeks balance, like homeostasis. Not balance as in that everybody is equal, balance in energies, duh!

Do you want to encourage and add openness or do you want to get rid of a certain feeling? If you were to want to get rid of a certain feeling, then adding the energy you require for this, which comes naturally as we seek to garner the energies we seek subconsciously, would do the trick. Problem is, the subconscious only understands "brute force," yes? This would be where we would force ourselves onto the other's energy fields; to do it manually, we could maybe, as I showed, push gently in that direction, like a hostage negotiator?

Getting the energies right would require that we observe mixtures in chemistry, we need to add certain words and gestures that will make the mixture settle and do that quickly, speeding up the results of the socio climax energy would be down to speaking quickly, to avoid stagnation and fear, real stress, and also to be understood a the same time.

 

With each scene there are words and impulses that we think to ourselves. Keeping these thoughts simple will lead to ease of composure and body language, as it will with dancing. Obviously, if you are thinking about complex things, like a relay scene you are trying to set up, or, for example, a complex lie you are about to tell, you will get stiff and lose composure.

Simple short thoughts.

 

Have you ever noticed those people that seem to hold your attention and get people like you to think about them while you are in a scene? These could be extroverts or even introverts, giving off 'an air of power,' yes? This would be where we simply see them as they see themselves, so, how do we model ourselves to do the same... is there some sort of trick?

Those people that seem to liven up a scene, these people will be the extroverts, filling each other person with positive energy, yes? This is down to thinking positively - it is most often felt at church after a service, a service of singing and interaction and humility, all socio feelings that lower the stress levels and fill you with mirth, of course. It is not merely about asking how others are, but also caring - why not care? Why not feel each other, why not get involved, instead of being selfish - you will be appreciated, that is for sure! Caring thoughts.

Then there are those that give off pure energy, usually women that speak a lot, yes? These little good vibe tribe people will usually think to themselves to be part of the scene too, and, instead of listening, bellow out their inner feelings, filling others and 'shocking' them too, where they will surely feel the same way or be disoriented, yes? This would be down to thinking about having fun and encouraging socialy frowned upon behaviour, like talking about sex and parties with lots of alcohol. Naughty thoughts.

Of course, there are also those that have an air of mystery and intrigue, like Sean Connery in James bond? These people will usually be hiding something, something that they think is very dubious, and, instead of obsessing over hiding it, divert attention onto someone else, focusing the energy from their own stiffness - and, they would be stiff if they did not think about someone else! - thereby adding their own mystery from themselves to the other person's energy, maybe by looking at them? This will be down to merely making your expression a bit serious and doing something routine. Deferring thoughts, changing the subject.

 

Then there is 'body language posturing.' This would be where you do not want to be stressed or be stiff, so, you push your emotions outwards into the world. This requires ignoring your quest for innocence that the west shoves onto us, and, instead saying to yourself hat you are guilty of all the things people think about you - you accept it, you don't care or you are listening.

~ This will ease you up! This will make you more relaxed and 'floppy.' This will give you more composure, for sure!

But, we do not want to flop around and not have any temperance, do we? We want to be lithe and pointed, yes? This would require a bit of thought about what you are doing - yes, it is like concentrating on how you look when you walk. This would be like thinking to yourself how you look, while at the same time dismissing this innocence thing - do you want to look stupid, or, do you want to look stupid with composure?

 

This body language thing is about composure, that is for sure. If you want people to feel you, you need to give them something to feel. As with shouting for an avalanche you can shout heat emotion energy at others that will make them feel something, maybe as if brute forcing the scene, yes? This would be like using your own 'passion' on the subject to infer upon them energy that you feel that they will feel.

Let's say a woman is about to be raped - she doesn't want that to happen, does she? If this was true, then you would have to have your fear factor emotional energy you give off to the criminal be stronger than his feeling of feeling stupid. With rape, the male will dream about having sex with someone to tell his friends about that he 'scored' as men are driven to mate to feel physically chemically self assured, yes? This means you need your fear you are feeling and give to him more energy than his feelings of self insecurity, yes? This sounds hard so far...

If you were to observe that a woman has a lot of maternal instinct, then she needs to tap that instinct that let's her lift a car off a baby into a 'shout or expression.' Simply, she wants to avoid the encounter, bugger if he pays, survival is the name of the game, yes?

This feeling of maternity is rivalled with her own sense of self belonging, her own drive makes her want to gain a mate with strength, and, this is not complimented with a converse sense of dismissal. This could be where she lacks the will to fight, physically chemically. The will to fight or run could be brought about by a 'reflex thought' of 'hate,' passion for their harm, yes? This would be where the woman would be able to fight, but honestly the trick would be too hard to pull off, as, we know that testosterone trumps estrogen in a physical rape scene.

So, the woman should run, yes? If she is grabbed by the arm, a simple and common trick, she should bite the hand, or, wear a jacket she can shed. This would be the safest way to avoid rape of this nature.

~ Remember though that most rapes are date rapes, so, use subliminal questioning to avoid these.