A Shrine to my most beloved grandmother.

My sincere condolences, AN!

You and your grandmother sound a lot alike and if you live a kind and loving life like hers you will keep her legacy alive by your own actions.

Yes, be kind to yourself because that is what she would want you to do.

Take care.
DT

 

My condolences on the loss of your mother, AJ.

 

This. All of our collective losses are equal in their suffering, their loss but also the beacon of light they all lived. If there is indeed a bigger universal/God factor here, He/It wanted to take His/its angels up to heaven together.

 

What they left behind was their respective love for you and AJ. Their love is immortal because it lives on in you and you, in turn, will pass their love onto others.

 

sounds like a great person, sorry for your loss

 

@AmericanNationalist Often, the sadness we experiment at the death of someone is proportionnal at the joy they brought to us. I wish you the best. I'm sorry for your loss.

 

You have my deepest sympathy and respect.

 

I'm very sorrow for your loss. Your grandmother was a wonderful woman. I know that because I have read many of your posts. Your thoughtfulness and consideration indicate that your grandmother raised a fine young man.

My deepest condolences.

 

My sincere condolences American National. May Verena’s memory be eternal.

 

Again, I want to continue thanking everybody for their kind and heartfelt words. I'm sure my grandmother appreciates your kindness and empathy as well. On that note, sad news. My grandmother had this habit of letting people into the house. And in part because I didn't want to make a scene in public and in part because I couldn't get my brother up to speed yet, some of these people came to the house, feigning their apologies(one individual in particular, after verbally insulting me with a "what did you do?" after I literally tried and failed to perform CPR, a couple of hours later this same dude all hugs me and stuff and is talking about my grandmother's legacy, after spitting on it and me. Smh.

Well, I look into my jacket pocket(where I kept my grandmother's bag of cards because I presumed it'd be much safer in my physical possession. I made One. Fatal Mistake. I left the jacket for a moment, on the seat of the kitchen chair. I didn't find out until later this morning after opening the bag, that my grandmother's bank card(and thus my SSI check) was stolen.

A vulture, digging into someone's grave. At this point, my anger was/is at a million out of ten. Even taking advantage of my grandmother in death, is one of the most despicable things I'd ever seen. So I contacted the police and filed a police report. And it turned out so many purchases were made, I could only choose 3 such purchases to file fraud online with the bank. So I chose the 3 largest.

I'll get a temp card within 5-7 business days, and hopefully between the police report and the online filing, the person will be prosecuted and put in jail. The only reason these thieves had escaped accountability up until now, is my grandmother's reluctance. I have no such reluctance when it comes to enemies of my family.

 

There are some horrible people around.

 

Heartfelt condolences to you and family is this difficult time.

 

You are not alone. Many are feeling just that at this time. If it is any consolation. We are going to be forever changed as a society. Reach out, you wont have to reach far.

 

RIP. Heartfelt condolences. I have also lost all my grandparents.

 

That's horrible, I wish you good luck so that case will be solved as soon as possible.

I tend to believe that people which have such a wicked mind are in the end their own punition. I'm confident they will pay for that, in a way or another.

 

Thanks to everyone in the hopes that the case will be resolved as soon as possible, and for me today is Monday, making this I guess technically the 4th day(since she died Friday morning.) And the wound? It'll never ever close, but when I was doing laundry I had what I felt like a heart to heart with my grandmother and for the first time, I see light at the end of the tunnel.


After crying for about 3 days straight, I've cried my heart out that all that's left is the positive mission that she left behind for me and as everyone said: To carry on her legacy and to make her proud of me. And that being sad forever, wouldn't make her happy. So I'm a bit closer to returning to the political-social stage on here. I just wanted to say thanks again to everyone.

 

You have a great mindset, you're right, the biggest gift we can do to people we cherished is being happy.

 

So I suppose what'll be the final post(unless the replies spark the need for a follow up reply) is to tell everyone what the coroner told my family: My grandmother died that morning of a sudden heart attack of natural causes. At 65, it's a perfectly natural way to go and yet it's a silent killer in many ways. You don't know when something like that is going to pop up. So I may consume my soda's a hell of a lot less moving forward. I felt the need to share that since I shared everything else.

Also, looking at old pictures I found a picture of me and her at her wedding. I was afraid I'd never have something physical to remind me of our time together as a mother/son duet on this earth, well I was happily wrong.

 

That’s a pretty nice memento. Sometimes you need something tangible as well as nice memories.

 

From my experience, the burial is very important. After, it take many month to "digest" the information. I hope that all the legal details would be as short as possible. That's one aspect of the contempary mourning : there is a lot of bureaucratic work, and the mourning can be truly over also when we have solved every legal aspect. The fact that it's complicate to die from an administrative point of view in our nowodays society make me sometimes smile.
Having to clean up the belonging of our relative after they die is also an important part of mourning. I was advised to not keep for a long time the clothes of the deceased, as apparently, with time it's more complicate to throw them away. By the way, we can always keep a scarf or a hat. Some people give a part of their old clothes, with the clothes of the deceased.
We often think of morning as a strictly emotionnal process, when it's also a lot of practical things.
65 is young to leave, but the other way to see it is that it was 65 beautifull years. Every day of life is the greatest treasure we can have. From what I read, she raised a great man.

Good luck to you again.