Are you embarrassed to ask for help when you need it?

Many people are. I am not. I am looking forward to hearing from those who are and those who are not.

 

~ Many are reluctant to ask for help. I think most of us are raised to be responsible and not be burdensome to others. The kind of help makes a difference. People do not want to be a bother to others unless absolutely necessary .

 

I like Help. I like let it be more;

 

This mentality is indeed prevalent, yet it is very very very wrong. I am happy to accept help. I a also believe in Welfare State.

 

To ask for help, you must realize you need it or think someone would actually help you.

 

I agree 100%. Now I am working on forming a support group -- people who help and support each other.

 

Sounds like a woman's club.

 

~ Commonly referred to as "group therapy" .

 

Sortof. If I truly need help, I don't have a problem asking for it. But I will go to rather extreme lengths trying to figure out how to do something myself to avoid finding someone to help me. That is partially because I'm asocial, which creates two problems: 1) I don't know a lot of people that are commonly available to help, and 2) asking anyone for help usually involves consenting to some idle chitchat either before or after, and idle chitchat is like nails on chalkboard to me...

But if I'm being honest, it is also at least a little bit because I would be embarrassed asking for help that I didn't need.

 

This is correct. The problem being, there are some who not only feel they need it, they believe that others should automatically provide it, with no responsibility on behalf of the recipient.

While I wholly believe in providing help to those who truly need it, there is a difference between I need help, will you help me, and why aren't you helping me, I deserve it.

 

*eyeroll*

 

I hope I can start a Zoom therapy group.

 

I have been suffering severe Social Isolation due to my opinions and especially my Autism!

Now I am trying to form a Zoom group.

Proud to be an Aspie!

 

I reject gender roles 100% -- the idea that men should be tough, etc. These gender roles are deadly -- tens of thousands of men die from taking unreasonable risks.

 

What is a Zoom group?

 

People who meet via Zoom -- the most popular video conferencing program.

 

Ah! Good idea I hope it works out.

 

~ There likely already is.

 

There are millions of Zoom friend groups -- I am working on starting my own.

 

Sounds like a bunch of back rubbing and "There There's". Spoken like a true woman.

 

I'm genuinely interested in your outlook on life.

How do you deal with negativity when it comes your way? Have you ever found yourself in a place where you felt things were overwhelming?

It's interesting to me that you strongly reject the OP premise. I think you have something valuable to say.

 

One reason I am into men's issues is that I hate the gender role Society imposes on men -- being tough, and expendable. Being seen as the bad guy is an extension of men's role.

I do suffer -- much more then normal people of either sex. I do cry. I do get hurt. I do need help.

Even if men are ``tough" on average, most men with Depression are much more sensitive then normal people of either sex.

 

Expectation to be tough is literally deadly -- hundreds of thousands of people break down under the burden they can not bear. In USA, 67,000 people died from drug overdoses in 2018.

 

Your Jedi Mind Tricks do not work on me.

 

Sadly, as I have mentioned elsewhere, hundreds of thousands of people in USA are overwhelmed by problems. Many people lose their lives to alcohol and drugs.

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