Thiis has been a terrible year to get engaged. Covid, the election, my stomach surgery in August, my mom moving in then out of assisted living, my sister having cancer again, and now my fiance gets surgery at the end of the month. plus her cat died. that was heart breaking. oy. but....i love her and she loves me. <3
Yea it takes years to figure out which battles to pick and which to avoid. My dad tells me they eventually level out and you begin to absorb each other's views or you head to the court house lol. Please have a beer for me and congrats once again.
when the engagement ring finally arrives and i put it on her finger, thats when i celebrate. i used a pretty good looking fake for the actual Big Question, i was going to buy her somehting online but then after lots of education i found out that may have been very bad. a $7,500 1.5 carrot diamond cushing pave ring will probably have bad color and lots of flaws all over the stone. i almost got that. a 1.5 diamond cushing pave with G color VS1 clarity? at least $10,800 online.
My husband hasnt figured that out yet and I cant seem to change his brain waves...hes the ultimate problem solver
The ring is temporary. You can always upgrade. That's what we are planning on doing. Kids in their 20s are so interested in getting a massive rock for their first ring. My parents upgraded the ring twice. No harm in that!
My ring came from a pawn shop....going to have to show my husband your post...maybe I will get a nice surprise.
I thought about getting the ring for my wife at a pawn shop. I just didn't find one I liked. I found a diamonds direct shop near by that actually had one better than I was hoping for at a fair price. It's not the biggest but she knows I'll get her a bigger one soon. She told me that it doesn't matter but I want to do it anyway
Oh wow that's a rough year. We support you bro! Your political beliefs don't stand in the way of a friendship from me! Glad you both have each other. Sending positive vibes your way
They are odd, and nice, but they don't have the bumps where I particularly want them to be. For you, its great news. Congrats that you are getting your favorite bumps, on the long-term plan. Wish you the best!
thanks bro. we will not be married for a while, as all the good places are booked solid through the Summer, and we dont want any big groups till Covid is in the past or we are all vaccinated. so...unless we do something tiny at a synagogue or city hall, it will be summer of 2022.
May I suggest West 47th Street in NYC? Best place to buy a diamond, IMO. And may I also suggest, pick your diamond, unset, and THEN pick your setting. Bring cash, if you are brave, discounts suddenly appear for cash deals. Marriage as a partnership, is hard work. About to hit 28 years married, 32.5 years together. Our unspoken rules, when the disagreements happen, keep it to the current subject, no dragging out history or other issues. Other unspoken rule, one good turn gets all the covers. Deal with it!
That's a promise we made to each other at the very beginning, and neither of us has broken it. In 14 years, going to bed angry is extremely rare (maybe twice?,) but never ending with anything but "I love you; let's sort it out tomorrow." Oh, and we have separate blankets, because we like different textures. Middle of the night thievery is pretty rare, too.
You did introduce the cats first, otherwise, the marriage may be off. Just kidding, cats are the easiest creatures to get along with others on the planet, they either sleep together or apart and it makes no difference to them Congratulations, my advice, **** the reception, spend the money on yourselves and go to Fiji
If you are in a rush to get married use the registry office with just immediate family and friends. Otherwise take your time because, after all, you do have the rest of your lives together, right? Golden rule #1 is that neither of you can read each other's minds. You BOTH have to be explicit about what you are THINKING and even more importantly what you are FEELING. Golden rule #2 is to never make any dispute personal. Leaving the toilet seat up is not something to end a relationship over. You are BOTH going to have to make COMPROMISES. Golden rule #3 is that the BENEFITS always outweigh any short term negatives. Golden rule #4 is that you are now PARTNERS and must always have each other's backs np matter what happens. It is a great deal easier to make it through life as friends and partners than it is as individuals. Being there for each other is what matters. All the best to both of you.
Hearty congratulations to you both! Make her the most important person in your life -- you and she against the whole world, and you'll probably do just fine! Good luck!