Im 'terrified by' (read: suspicious of) confident people in general because their confidense is usually undeserved. They're rarely good at anything except convincing others that they're good at everything.
ambition is sqwat without confidence... that said, there are, of course, many peeps that are attracted to timid creatures, and for a variety of reasons... the relationship gamut is huuuuuge, ergo, back to my original comment ... "y'all 'er over analyzing" & it'll show
By 'timid' are you referring to those who doubt success or those who will not even try? Would you consider someone who doubts success but keeps trying as timid or confident?
it can hard to tell the difference some people put up a facade and sometimes we misread what we see...someone we initially judge to be arrogant could actually be shy and reserved...I think we all tend to judge too quickly but that's just our nature...
You don't want equal. You want a special pat on the head just for showing up and doing what every other man does.
My wife was the hottest thang in town (at that time) we "dated" exclusively for 15 years.. Fortunately, it turns out, she can cook and clean too!
But you’re not sexist....lol I guess you guys wanted a special pat on the head for just showing up after denying women and people of color the same jobs you held
Historically, women have always tended to "marry up". Being that more women are now "up" themselves, that leaves a man-surplus at the bottom, and a man-deficit at the top.
Women are hardwired (by nature) to seek mates from above their own station, because they need a provider. The trade off (for the male in the equation) is .. well, nookie on demand, and the perpetuation of his genetic material. He's okay with it, because in the animal kingdom (ie, nature), males will #### anything female. Work with the system, try homosexuality, or become a bitter Incel. Take your pick.
Which is exactly what is happening, but not because some guys do better than others. It's a function of playing the teenage mating game well past the use-by date. It's not 'old fashioned', because it's still happening in many parts of the world. Just not in the First World West. But yes, it most definitely is the best. Yes there is. Young people should structure their lives in ways that facilitate an early and wise marriage to a DECENT AND LOYAL person (not the prettiest ... the best. Pretty is optional, but unnecessary. Plenty of ugly people in happy marriages), then stay married. I think kids should be married by 28, at the very latest. Probably immediately out of college is best though. Around 22 or 23.
It's only shocking if you think that a husband should be his wife's BFF, as well as her husband. Women have girlfriends, sisters, daughters, aunts, mothers, etc to fill that role. Have a look at any non-western culture where divorce is unusual, and you'll find their marriages a little different to ours, in this regard. Men and women do not expect each other to fill multiple (some impossible) roles.
Exactly. After a few years, the way your partner is constructed is irrelevant. Their NATURE is the thing you value. And of course how well they take care of themselves (which has nothing to do with looks .. see below). Meantime, in relation to the idea of good character 'improving' some people's looks - there's another kind of attractiveness which can be acquired by pretty much anyone, at any time. Good health. At ANY age, a person who clearly takes care of their physical health and fitness, is always significantly more attractive than even a better looking person in poor health (overweight, no muscle tone, bad diet, etc etc). And by good health, I mean good diet, no excess weight, and a well toned physique. Male or female, that should be the goal of all us, regardless of our looks.
