Do women hate when their men are gamers?

Do women hate when their men are gamers?

My missus seems to hate that I love gaming (though I suck at it at my age: I need cheats, mods and true very easy modes!) But, my wife seems to hate that I do game.

Today, I"m at WW and we're being ASKED about our hobbies. I tell the leader that asked that I game. I need to beat a level of Doom am stuck on.

She rolls her eyes and says her husband plays soccer games non-stop. And she is thinking, "dude, you are 50. Aren't you supposed to be over this already?"

She was literally encouraging us to have hobbies. Wuzza with this diz?

 

Dunno I've been a gamer since I was 7, I designed my first game when I was 13 in 1961. Played tournament chess for nearly 20 years earned a couple of master points in duplicate bridge, played at pokerstars on the cashless tables before it was shut down, I'd amassed about 200k of funny money before it got shut down. Mostly these days I play old stuff like The early civilization games, and older RPGs. My wife doesn't seem to mind much or has at least figured out that it isn't worth the time to do so Closing on 71.

 

Ask the women.

 

In case you haven't noticed mostly they aren't here.

 

As an inveterate war game boarder since the early 1960s, the women in my life have been thrilled with the value of the collection but dislike the time away from them that it takes.

 

I'm 85 and people are quite surprised when they find out my favorite game is DOOM.

 

My wife left her ex boyfriend and one of the biggest reasons was gaming.
Luckily, I met her and now she is my wife for 8 years and counting.
I do not play video games.

 

Are you playing games while the sink is full of dishes and the lawn turns into a jungle? If so, thats why she hates it.

If not, she probably thinks you should be entertaining her instead of yourself.

Either way, it isn't the games, but what she thinks you should be doing instead.

 

Sometimes, it is the games. There are definitely women who think of it as a frivolous or even destructive hobby. There's no doubt that some level of social stigma comes with it. Seems to be disappearing with the Zoomers, though.

 

Very true. It never ceases to amaze me the folks that will spend hours on fantasy football but make fun of dungeons and dragons.

 

I don't think gaming is the biggest issue with your marriage, it's the fact you came here for validation rather than discussing the issue with her.

 

My wife plays word games and I fly simulators. She tries to get me interested in word games and I try to get her to fly. Reading some of the posts I was reminded of a quote by Lewis Grizzard -- "I came from a large family and I never slept alone until I got married".

 

? I already know she hates me gaming. I"m wondering if a lot of other women are the same and their reasons if known. The surprise for me isn't that she hates me gaming: it's that even the leader at WW was rolling her eyes about it.

Nope, chores done. Interesting about what she thinks I should be doing instead. I'm sure she wants me to try to figure out how to earn more (get some more certs, etc.).

 

WW?

 

In my opinion, if you know your mate hates something and you do it anyway you do not deserve her affection. Likely you are just a Boy and not a Man.

 

Sure, but if you want to understand why they feel this way, wouldn’t it make sense to actually ask them and talk to them about it? People don’t talk to each other about issues enough (indeed, burying ourselves in to solo hobbies is a classic way of avoiding talking to people). Maybe you could convince them otherwise or identify tiny adjustments you can make to make them happier. If nothing else, you might get a better understanding of the person you’re hopefully spending the rest of your life with (and thus making that more likely ).

 

Used to stand for weight watchers. They changed their branding (very odd) to Wellness that Works.

I can't agree. You are not an automaton for your mates every whim. If you try to be, I think you are in for trouble. In my own life, I have had to fight for some liberty in the relationship. I owe her so much. She is the mother of my children. But I owe myself too. I think you do have to pick your battles.

 

Ever play the old SPI game Terrible Swift Sword?

 

Of course. I still have a tattered version, certainly not worth the prime collector's rate.