Hi from across the pond.....

Looks like I made an impact you want me to edit and change that? How about, from across the oceans, or the other side of the world? I won’t say from down under chunder!

 

I'll overlook it this time - as you're a newbie!!

 

To be fair Cerberus, most things seem to get on your effing nerves. Maybe you should try yoga or meditation. Anti-psychotic drugs can work too...

Across the pond usually refers to the Atlantic between the US and Europe (the UK more specifically) but the Pacific is an ocean too...

 

It would not surprise me in the lease if Cerby gets on his own effing nerves just for being himself.

 

Even Cerberus provides a value to the forum though. Mostly the amusement of his fellow members.

Meowww,

 

I've watched "Quigley Down Under", "The Man From Snowy River" & "Return . . " and Nicole Kidman, "Australia". Toni Collette and "Japanese Story".
And know the dastardly way Bligh was treated after Bounty when he was appointed to manage the place.

Check out or not
http://politicalforum.com/index.php?threads/all-things-australia.520406/
and try catch up with @Sallyally .


Although it seems we have more s on Board, notice
how lively the Australia forum is. Maybe we could build a wall

I do remember an Academy Awards some years ago where
it happened that the Aussies had their own table.
And it was noticed to be the most boisterous.
Now they separate their seat assignments.


Moi
HIStory, not HERstory
Welcome Status, pending further evaluation

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I will take a break now, got news of my mum having a really bad stroke and doesn’t recognise anyone. I felt so helpless, over 2000 miles away. I only got here yesterday and scheduled to go back next Wednesday. I wonder why I should fly back so soon if she won’t even recognise me? Taken from ICU to palliative care. I’ll skeep on it tonight. Other family are there so she isn’t alone. Mum was so independently stubborn and lived alone in the old family house. I wanted her to go to an elderly village but no go. Take care and thank you all for welcoming me, much appreciated., until later ~ Lols

 

Best thoughts and luck to you and yours.

 

Sorry to hear about your dear mum.

Take care
DT

 

Gee, that toon is so homophobic!
Sorry, couldn't help but say so after the right wing thread whose projections falsely accuses patriots of homophobia.

 

Best wishes to you and your mom,

Was she on statins?
The epidemic of over treatment of cholesterol does save the heart
but produces more strokes! Specifically statins.

Better recovery with earlier physical therapy, even before medically stable.

Protein, protein, protein
Brain Food.
Chicken soup better than vegetable soup right now.
B Vitamins supports oxygen utilization, a biggie for the brain
G'luck


Moi
Welcome status: pending

When All Else Fails





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Remember: Your login works where ever you are as long as you have
internet access.

 

Thanks for the kind thoughts people, it really does help, more than I realized. Even though we don't know each other, words on a screen coming from real people, can have an amazing effect.
Moi, I remembered now, hearing about statins some time ago, and then I felt so angry with myself for not checking it for mum. After her hospitalization last Christmas, she went in with a heart attack, and on 3 previous medications when she went in, she survived okay, then comes out of hospital with 6 medications! One of the medications is Atorvastatin 40 mg (to lower cholesterol). I said I don't like all this, too many! And from about April onward, I noticed she was getting weaker, and complaining of headaches and dizziness and pain in her back.
It was a big day today, I finally organized flights to go back to Melbourne from interstate, to go see mum, I will be honest, was dreading it, had a lot of anxiety, as my brother (whom we had a falling out with 20 years ago) would be there, and my son said he changed his mind and won't come in because of his uncle, I just hung up on my son, couldn't cope with his feelings when I had mine to cope with. (I don't normally hang up on my kids). His wife must have convinced him to go, as he rings back and says, he will go, but just for me, and won't be talking to anyone. So imagine me feeling apprehensive with all this, on the plane, I was getting cramps in my stomach from nerves. A lot of emotions, from anger, to guilt, to sadness, to regret. My daughter kept texting me to think positive, put out positive vibes, and it will be okay etc etc. I kept checking my negative thoughts, and stopped them, and thought positive thoughts intead (geez that is so hard sometimes under the circumstances!)

Well, nothing ventured, nothing gained, I held my breath, and walking into the hospital room, there was my brother and his wife, I hadn't seen my sis in law for 20 years, and my mum was in the bed sleeping, looking a bit hollow, everyone's eyes lit up as we walked in, and we all greeted each other, hugs and kiss (as Italians do), and it all went civil and positive. Some tears all around.
Mum woke up, and I held her hand, and as she was unable to talk, and best of all, she recognized us, and seemed to have a smile, strained, but could see she so badly wanted to say something, her eyes were sad but happy to see us. My son's hard feelings seemed to instantly soften, and he seemed more positive and forgiving. (His wife said to him afterwards outside the hospital "Are you glad you came now")
Overall, to my surprise, we all got on so well, and mum witnessed this, so that would have brought a lot of peace to her in a way, to take with her when it is time for her departure. I asked for the doctor to come in, and wanted to ask questions about mum's type of stroke, and asked about the statins. We were told, because of mum's high blood pressure, and a clot that formed from her heart, went to her brain, and caused damage to the part that makes the body move, hence her right side completely unable to move, and she cannot swallow food or drink. I saw the ct scans of her brain and how it looked.
They took her off the drip today, because it may go into the lungs and cause pneumonia and inflame the area of her brain with the blood from the clot. They wanted it to shrink or something (so much info to take in) In the morning, they will assess her for the drip again. I have this feeling, because of her age, not a lot will be done to keep her going, even though she has improved a bit since being admitted, more alert, and her right foot moved a bit etc. The talk about physio to learn to walk, and to talk, and of course, life is limited, if it was a young person, it would be different, but at 90, maybe they are thinking, some dignity in allowing her to die comfortably, rather than be half crippled and dependant on others, when she has to date, been so independent, and driving a car as well!
Tomorrow is another day, and it is just one day at a time. I will go in and stay a while, and bring in a couple of good books to read I bought from the airport today. I want peace for my mum, and told my brother, if he keeps being stressed, when mum hates that sort of fuss, she won't rest in peace in the ever after. Even husband said to my bro, that he needs to no get sick over all this, as mum would not have wanted that.
We need to accept the inevitable, I never thought I would, but with family around and sharing the love, it's been a very intriguing day, of finding peace, and some healing. I know I will miss mum and her amazing life of hardships and achievements, but, I am grateful for that. Good, not so good, and life's lessons along the way. She made the best pasta sauce, my son said, the only other sauce like grandma's, was an Italian restaurant at Lake Havasu. (in the USA of course!)

 

I feel for you LL but am glad that this tragic situation may go towards healing some family rifts. As they say, you can choose your friends but your family are chosen for you.
My own mothers slow slide into dementia has brought my sister and I closer together as did my fathers death 10 years ago.
It's sometimes heart breaking to watch my mother obsessing over single tiny issues and having to answer the same question over and over but her love for her family is undiminished and it warms my heart to see the devotion of her partner to her.
As you say, we are all just anonymous faces on a tiny corner of the internet but the empathy of strangers can somtimes have almost the same value as that of close friends.
So I am sending my love from one stranger to another and fighting back the tears as I do it.

 

Greetings and welcome.

 

Welcome Lady .Glad you found some peace with family. The older I get the more understanding and mellow 'most of the time' LOL.

 

Unless hospitalized....then it's freakin' ON......this coming from a "white male".

 

I can only say you have a beautiful attitude and it is important to remember that the sadness in her passing is for your loss not for Mum....she will have peace.

 

Peaceful wishes for your Mum and you all.

 

@Lady Lols

Clot vs Emboli.

Clot is like "thrombus", clotted blood
Emboli is anything, such as arterial plaque flaking off and traveling,
not related to a blood clot incident.


Inspired to start a thread about Geriatric Health.
In the health care forum
http://politicalforum.com/index.php?threads/geriatric-health-care-an-absurdity.547479/

Best Wishes
Moi
Welcome Status: pending

Don't ize Australia!​

 

Got to ask Lady Lols.
When you were in the US did the locals ask if you were from England or Australia?

 

Good point, I always ask North Americans if they are Canadian to avoid causing offence.

 

I always found it odd that people would confuse my Cockney accent with the Australian accent.
Chalk and cheese.

 

I hope you tell them to ''leave it aht''.

 

I visited Australia many years ago and thoroughly enjoyed the people i met
Hard to believe they mostly had criminal forebears....wink wink

 

You can talk, we hardly sent our best out to the New World colonies either.