How a husband can enjoy sex that is grudgingly given by his wife

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  1. ellesdee

    ellesdee Well-Known Member

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    I can see how that can be true, and if a wife is climbing onto her husband, being careful not to look him in the eyes, riding him to orgasm while he doesn't even try to pretend to be aroused, I'd find that equally creepy.
     
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    Spooky Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    Or, since women are more emotional, will lead her to seek that intamacy somewhere else which will probably lead to divorce. If the man had sucked it up and gave his wife some attention he wouldn't lose all the other benefits of marriage.
     
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    ellesdee Well-Known Member

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    People change. their hormones change. Someone who once had a strong sex drive, may lose that over time, or what they find pleasurable changes. The key is adaptability. People get stuck on this idea that if the things they once did for their spouse are no longer causing pleasure, then their sex life is over. They don't consider the possible that they may need to change how they approach sexual intercourse.
     
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    Spooky Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    Well then change it and go buy some whips or something.
     
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    ellesdee Well-Known Member

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    That's the difficulty with marriage. Over the long-term, people really do change. The key is adaptability.

    One of the problems my wife and I had for a while was we weren't finding each other attractive anymore; we both had been decently fit in out youth but let ourselves go a bit after marriage. Exercising more and getting back into better shape was a big part of what kept us from choosing a divorce.
     
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    Unfortunately, my wife found a deeper love for Jesus than she had for me....and sex became a dirty word. Ignition was simply not possible as even the cinders went out when god came in.
     
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    Well, I hope it at least led you to find someone who is more compatible with you.
     
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    Spooky Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    I held out sex from my wife and it ended in her falling out of love with me and a divorce. What I lost didn't equal the effort of doing something I didn't want to. I should have found a way and dealt with it.
     
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    tecoyah Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    Thanks....it most certainly did. Never been happier, and definitely no sex issues anymore.
     
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    The short answer is; you don't have sex. you talk, identify the problem and fix it.
     
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    Then it's time to part ways, that simple. Time is the most finite resource we have, so why waste each other's time? If you want to be frigid, go join a convent. Truth is, sex is a important part of a happy marriage, and if you don't want to do your part, it's time for you to hit the road.
     
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    Well, I can't argue with you on that except to add that divorce should be a last resort after much time exploring other options and searching for ways to eliminate the problem. While sex is a truly awesome thing, it's not the only part of a great relationship. I would have lost so many other wonderful things had my wife and I not been able to work through our sexual issues.
     
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    stepped_in_it Banned at Members Request

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    HMMM......screw SIN. Divorce the witch!
    There's always a willing partner somewhere out there............
     
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    Ladies...just throw the guy a piece of liver and a copy of Portnoy's Complaint.
     
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    ellesdee Well-Known Member

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    That's the odd thing. Some people find the ideas expressed in the article as a better alternative to divorce.
     
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    Because an intimate relationship in 1984, might change into something very different in 20 years. Things like betrayal, agendas, and changing needs have a way of altering the emotional pathways in marriages.
     
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    No one should, because that's not what it is.

    To be sure, though I don't know that we'd agree on why.
     
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    ellesdee Well-Known Member

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    O-kay... Thanks for your opinion...?
     
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    Well, I'm glad you guys made it work.
     
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    Men in US society have been made to be ashamed of their masculinity which women find attractive.
     
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    WTF???

    How does this relate to the topic at hand?
     
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    doombug Well-Known Member

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    Ever wondered why women "begrudgingly" have sex? I guess not. No wonder articles like this are needed by some poor guys.
     
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    That's an explanation?

    Bizarre...:roll:
     
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    doombug Well-Known Member

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    You are obviously completely lost when it comes to the topic.......sad.
     
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    It's odd the guy didn't write about find ways to satisfy his wife so that sex wasn't "begrudgingly" given, rather than finding ways to enjoy the begrudgingly given sex.
     

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