How a husband can enjoy sex that is grudgingly given by his wife

LOL...yeah, right.

Drive by posting. That's what you're all about.

 

That and being correct as I am once again.

 

Only in your own mind.

 

....and in the real world. Check my sig.

 

What I said about rape is fact. You're welcome.

They'd be better off with an old sock than that retarded screed.

You think the man's sexual incompetence is the only reason the woman wouldn't be interested?

 

Remove the word "selfish" from that sentence. It makes no sense in the context of what you are talking about.

 

I think it does. I think it very selfish to talk about sex as a marital duty to be performed.

 

No, but the entire article is advice to men on enjoying sex. If she's unwilling, there's probably a reason and it probably has to do with her enjoyment. If she's satisfied and enjoys sex with him, she's not likely to be unwilling. Women enjoy sex as much as men do. The key word is enjoy.

 

I don't understand this thread. So some chicks no longer feel obligated to meet their husbands' sexual demands?

If they don't view sex as an obligation, then there was never a reason to get married in the first place. Sue her for misleading you into thinking she was going to be a good wife, and replace her with a wife that understands her duties and responsibilities.

 

You keep coming back, but you haven't really said anything.

 

I don't think that's a fair generalization. There's a variety of reasons why a woman might be attracted to a man. Besides, I don't think this article is intended toward the progressive metrosexual man.

 

And...the definition of masculinity would vary depending upon the personality type and intellect of the person being asked.

 

This thread is so ... icky.

So Christian husbands are entitled to sex?

If you aren't good at it and your wife doesn't like it, get a divorce..

 

Ok let's take 2 scenarios:
1) A husband wants sex but the wife refuses (she's just not feelin it). Is the wife being selfish?
2) A husband wants sex, the wife doesn't but gives in out of duty. Is the husband being selfish?

Why??

 

I guess that depends. If she ain't going to put out, then she can't complain if he tells her to get her clothes out of the bedroom closet because he's moving his girlfriend in. She also can't complain if he divorces her for that.

Sorry, but sex is part of the job requirements.

 

More accurately, you don't like what I said, but can't find fault wtih it, so you're trying for passive-aggresive derogation.

 

The best way to ensure sex with your wife, from my experience, is surprise her with a ready dinner when she arrives home from work. I find grilled salmon mixed in with pasta and olive oil seems to do the trick. Eat together and chat about your days, then let her choose a show to watch together.

If that doesn't open her... mind, just rub one out and try again tomorrow. Dinner ready two days in a row? That has never failed, unless she menstruating, in which case, just drop the whole thing for a few days.

One thing in the article I do agree with is that a women's sex drive is complicated. It's like a harp. You have to pluck the strings gently. Especially after you've been together a long time and had kids, you need finesse, but you'll also learn your wife's personal strings. Have patience and learn to enjoy this process as part of the intercourse.

Icky enough for you now?

 

The selfishness is selling the sense of a marital duty and a subsequent a sense of guilt for refusal. The damage is already done done either way. When husband exploits that societal message for sexual gain, he is accepting his gratification at her expense.

 

This is how husbands end up on their wives' ignore list.

 

I think it's creepy that someone would mention the word rape in this context as the sex was consensual, even if not ideal between this married couple

now I suppose the one in the relationship not wanting sex could suggest the other find a concubine or prostitute, sex toy or lotion instead?

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I think the end result of such sex has a similar psychological effect on the woman as rape.

 

if that is the case, divorcee is in order imo, cause she obviously doesn't love her husband anymore

if one doesn't want sex, they should say no... when a spouse say yes to sex, it's not rape... something wrong with a person that consents to sex but still thinks of it as rape

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I read recently that only 30% of women regularly orgasm from vaginal intercourse, but 90% orgasm from oral sex.

If your wife isn't responding, you got to go downtown.

 

Take that duty out of the marriage, and you can very well end up being in a situation where you are not allowed to have sex at all. Can't have sex with her, and can't move her clothes out of the bedroom so your girlfriend has room for her clothes.

Sorry, but that's not acceptable.

 

Something about this topic really seems to put some people on the defensive.