How long have you been married for?

35 years. Wife likes to claim she was only 6 when we got married.

 

Married 30 years in a few months. Total of 35 years together.

Majority of them good. A couple of rough patches, but we worked through them.

 

I was going through an "at fault" divorce. Any affair during the divorce would have put $250k in alimony back on the table. (Texas calls it spousal maintenance.)

I just ignored her on our anniversary. I didn't want to risk being seen as aggressive towards her. Since our son's college graduation in December, I have only talked to my X once and that's because she called me. She got the idea that I didn't want to talk to her and hasn't called since. She did text me at tax time with tax questions 30 minutes before her taxes were due. (Her first time ever doing taxes at 51 years of age.) LOL

 

My ex and I weren't even living in the same State by then. And we lived in a no fault State. Leaving the State cost me big time and I had no idea it would be such a problem. But the next three years were the best of my life. I met the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. She was only 21 but I've never been so in love and never will be again. I was completely consumed and out of control. It was a once in a lifetime experience. It is basically how I define my life now. The problem is that I have literally been in contact with or met thousands of women since she left [currently about 7000] hoping to find something like that again, but to no avail. At this point I have no hope of ever finding anything like that again. But I wouldn't give up a moment of it for anything.

On the up side, you can't meet 7000 women, many of them gorgeous, most at least very attractive and all far younger than me, without having a good time. I never could have imagined my life today in my wildest dreams ten years ago.

 

My wife and I meeting was a set up. By her older sister and my aunt who lived across from each other

 

8 so far and I was married 31 years, but she died RIP

 

53 years, met the wife in Bangkok in 1967 and have been married since 1969.

 

Fine. Just keep moving the goal post.

 

And so she was!!!

 

Well, I was 0, going on 1! In 1967.

 

As I said before. You're not my ex-wife are you? Probably not. Her boyfriend was 28 and it cost her dearly. ($250k in alimony)

 

I never cheated. But when it was over I went sex crazy LOL! And I haven't stopped since.

I have been with some of the most beautiful women there are. It has been an amazing ride. I didn't get to date her but I was talking with one over the last few weeks that I would put up against any supermodel in the world. Over the last ten years I developed a system that allows me to date women way out of my league by any reasonable standard. It just requires lots and lots of hard work and dedication. And you have to accept that you can't keep 'em. That is a big part of the trick. Once they know you know that, the world is your oyster.

I have no desire to marry again so why not?

 

My wife and I just celebrated our 34th last month.

Reminds me of how my late father always used to wonder how his older sister somehow became younger than him over the years!

 

Close to 7 yrs and NEVER again...I could not compete with his secretary. She took care of him until
he died some yrs ago.

 

25.02 years and she's exceptional

 

That .02 makes all the difference!

 

????

 

They stated they have been married 25.02 years. A little humor, at being so exact.

 

I am thirty years in to a life sentence.

 

Well I've heard the term, is marriage a word or a sentence....... Many live quiet lives of
desperation, my parents were pretty much like that.

 

Yeah, the big lie comes from religion that continues teaching marriage is the key to a happy life. Well half of all marriages fail and half the people who stay married are miserable. Religions and all of these big fans of marriage need to stop lying.

Young people have finally started figuring this out. Many wouldn't consider getting married. When I asked one young lady if she plans to get married, she replied "My parents are divorced. My grandparents are all divorced. And they all hate each other. Why would I want to get married?!?!"

It appears that marriage works really well about 1 out of 4 times. So I guess the key is to get married 4 times LOL!

 

And 4 divorces, I once dated a retired attorney and when I met him he announced he was married 5 times and divorced all those times, I was intrigued and he wheeled me in, treated me royally with stuff and it felt KINDA good but I got out, he's dead now...and I find out now thru his obit he had 9 children and not 2/....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I want no parts of many man. A good neighbor helps me with shopping and trash and he's a very kind guy, he's never married and is 56. j

 

Well we have that in common. I was married for 25 years and it was mostly a living hell. After I almost blew my brains out, I went to my ex and said I wanted out.

Since I have no desire to marry again, I just chase young hotties now. I have had some great relationships so it isn't just about sex. But because of the age difference we keep a certain distance. My one young friend used to call this a "no-hair-in-the-sink" relationship, meaning, we don't spend enough time together to drive each other crazy - ie we don't live together where the hair in the sink from the other person starts to piss you off.

 

Ah the 56 yr guy here who has never married, chases the young hotties and he says upfront he wants no children and they agree but along the way that changes...the last gal he had a good year with is about 20 yrs younger and having a child is a major drive for her, they broke up but still friends, they like each other, and he's very kind. and helpful.

 

Real religion teaches that marriage is not about rights but instead about responsibilities. It's not about quitting when the sex is no longer up to snuff or the money's too tight. It's kind of like being in the military. It's not just about getting a great education on some of the highest tech in the world or getting to live in various bases all over the world. It's about running to the gunfire when and where it erupts and putting your lazy ass in the line of fire for your country and your life.

Unfortunately we started losing that perspective half a decade ago and still haven't got it back. That's the story of my 35 years and counting. I actually meant it and so did she.