I'm not going to lie, this thread/poll is another thread I saw on another forum; https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/redirect/post?p=34753748 But I thought I'd bring it here, to this community and see what all you guys/gals/whatevs think. I don't fear it but, I was just thinking about it. I'm 30 but, like many before me, I'm not immune from sudden death. I was actually wondering how much having a will and testament at a local solicitors would cost so I can shut down my company in the event of I die. It'll also be one more peace of mind for long haul travel on an aeroplane to someone who hasn't flown long haul (or anywhere) since 2004. - So I might be a little bit rusty/anxious to fly again but... Having a will before I leave the ground would be cool. - But really, I want one to shut down my company beyond the grave. - I haven't actually got that ability yet and so, don't want to die before I can, so, yeah, "want to get me a will." Will shop around when I have money and see how that goes.
This is a very timely subject for my life. I used to not think one way or the other on it. Honestly, where I grew up, & the things I'd been involved in, I never planned on making it much into my 30's... If I made it that far. I think more about it now, @ 47, after being married for 10 years.... My daughter's CML, & my pops soon to finish the race... I don't ever remember fearing death. I do now in a way, but not from the POV of being afraid of what If anything, comes after, but missing my loved-ones, & they, (perhaps?) missing me.
Death is what it is. I don't fear my own death the way I fear the deaths of others close to me. I personally more vacillate between whether I want to know I am going to die or whether I just want to drop dead with no notice. Each has its own pluses and minuses. I am as prepared as one can be already. I have all the legal stuff taken care of and I am hugely insured so if it comes anytime soon at least, my last thought won't be "Crap I should have....now its too late."
I sometimes think of things like a meteor strike or an airplane that hits the building, or even a car accident. One moment you're alive and everything is normal. The next moment, you don't exist. It is strange to think it could all end in a flash and I wouldn't even know it. Provided the cause of death isn't something horrible, I tend to want to experience death. I have read accounts from hospice workers who have come to appreciate death as another part of life that can be quite beautiful. Truth or fiction, people believe they are being visited by loved ones passed, or other things, and can pass with incredible joy. But I don't want to linger or endure some terrible illness. Extending life is one thing. But all too often, modern medicine just extends the suffering. In that event I would rather get hit by a meteor.
I am not scared of death at all because it is a natural part of life. In the great words of Ivan Drago; "if he dies, he dies."
Here day fights with night - the last words of Victor Hugo Everybody has to die, but I always believed an exception would be made in my case - William Saroyan
Fear is not a word I associate with my death, Though I do worry for what it might do to those who love and depend on me.
Death as a concept is troublesome because it happens to others but not us. But it does. Putting down a dearly loved little buddy at the vet reminded me that a certain level and beyond of pain is not worth enduring. I don't want to die in terrible pain. Having outlived one spouse and one adult child, that I do not want to do again. If one is older than sixty, than death seems more normal to me.
I really don't fear death so much as I don't want to die, primarily because it will hurt the ones I love--pretty much similar to Tecoyah's much more eloquent post.
