How much does religion and politics play in who you date or marry?

Today I ran into an old friend who told me he was breaking up with his going on 11 months girlfriend because she was a Democrat and because she was not religious.

I looked at him as if he was crazy as this girl is hot and funny and kind and I have absolutely no idea WTF my friend is thinking!!!

So the question I will ask the membership is this.....How much does religion and politics play a part in finding a spouse?

AA

 

pretty big. depends how much it plays a role in your beliefs. i highly doubt most young people really have a handle on the horrific reality in modern politics. political beliefs and religion can play a major role in life philosophy. Put that in with raising children and it can become a major problem long term.

I think your friend probably made the right decision. Modern women are tough enough as is why put more hurdles in the mix to overcome.

 

I'm agnostic, my wife is Catholic, so religion does not matter to me, however politics.... is a different story.

 

Yeah...but she was a really nice and hot girl.

I think a person can be big enough to still love someone but not necessarily agree with their politics and religion.

AA

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I am Agnostic as well.

I have never considered religion or politics as far as who I am interested in but I guess if a girl was way over the top too religious....that might be a problem.

AA

 

I don't date Democrat women who are doctrinaire. If they voted for Obama in 2008, no prob lots of people got fooled by that leg tingle, if both 2008 and 2012, find another guy, it ain't me... and those usually have a double digit IQ which is a nonstarter as well.

Won't date a feminist under -any- circumstances. Also won't date women who are too religious.

I have a bad attitude about women of my generation due to being in the "tween" years between the baby boomers and genX and possibly rotten luck. The women of my generation, socioeconomic class (middle/upper middle) and the geographies I have lived, that I have experienced, are some of the most spoiled rotten, ass-kissed, self-absorbed human creatures in history (think Sex and the City). I'm sure there are some decent ones out there, I met very few though out of 150 or so dated. Have to go younger or older to date due to that bad attitude.

 

There were people that broke engagements because they couldn't agree on the color of a dress.

Nothing surprises me.

 

I never had any issues with Feminist women as I think it might be because my way over the top Alpha nature might negate that effect.

AA

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LOL!!!

YES!!!!


And that just shows you how shallow they are.

I find it mind boggling that people can be like that!!

AA

 

Nice and hot is fun but it does not always last and you have to also be able to live with them on a daily basis and deal with life's hurdles and their personal baggage. i am guessing if she was a democrat she has a good chance of being a closet feminist which......um....... can be a problem LOL.

also.... both people have to take the high road and that is not common. marriage is a situation where the male typically has to learn to deal with a lot of crazy emotional stuff from the female. I cannot image being married to a modern democrat let alone trying to raise children with one. I could deal with a god lover... not a big deal. Might actually be better. if he regrets it later just tell him to go watch Gone Girl LOL.

 

I cannot think of anything worse than spending a lifetime with someone who agrees with me on everything, how boring.

 

I was almost married 2 times as I lost one fiancee as she died suddenly and tragically and I lost the second one because I was gone for weeks to months at a time overseas.

Their religion and politics never was an issue.

However....I don't think I could handle a girl who was pushing GOD on me.

AA

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I agree.

I want someone who has their own mind.

AA

 

They are fine for a lay. Blows up at about three month mark every time for anything more though IME. Anyone who is so solipsistic, self-absorbed that they cordon off their beliefs via gender is going to fold like a cheap lawnchair when life gets real. Have seen this dozens of times in friends' marriages. Knock on wood, there but for the grace of Casper go I.

 

LOL!!

Well....I think this is something that depends on the people involved.

I might respect woman but that does not mean some extreme feminist I date is going to try to sway me to some way too far ideology.

AA

 

Here's the problem with that. Those types build resentment, sway or no sway, and keep intaking that GIGO feminist bull(*)(*)(*)(*). Once they build enough resentment, they will blow some random dude in the bathroom at a club on girl's night just to get back at you for some imagined "patriarchal" slight, then you have no choice but to dump them, and all that time wasted. So, three months and out if they give even the slightest inclination of feminism. I dumped one one time for saying "It's a man's world." Why waste the time?

 

I would say your right on the mark actually. when i take my kids out to the park, bowling, hiking, rollerskating etc. my wife chooses to watch reality TV and play on her phone. She is almost 40 LOL. She has gone through a radical change after having kids. I am loyal though.

I am a bit of an island though. I wont own a cell phone.... dont watch television etc. etc. I dont spend alot of time on the internet but i do go through spurts here sometimes because 99.9% of people i talk to dont have a feel for whats going on in this country when i mention something. They do know pop culture though which i am practically clueless.

the whole couple thing is very strange though. people change through their lives at different rates....figure life out. i think the biggest thing is sticking with the commitment you both make and not throwing in the towel. make sure it can work before you have kids because once that happens your bonded and as a man in this society you might as well just kill yourself if you split with your wife and kids are in the environment.

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that never happens in marriage no matter how much alike you are.

 

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I avoid extremes, both left and right, religious and non-religious.

 

I have never had that experience.

AA

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Yeah.....it's the extreme people who I would stay away from as well.

I don't care if a woman has a different belief system or a different politics than me at all.

AA

 

LOL.... yup! self absorbed.... what like the world revolves around the BS in their daily lives LOL. at what point in this whole male female thing did it become a given that men were supposed to automatically be shrinks and be able to read the minds of females when they themselves have no clue what they want or "Need" for their own personal happiness.... whatever the hell that means.

i asked my wife to try out a philosophy book once but she was too busy watching real houswives of orange whatever and checking her facebook. did i mention she is almost 40? I took the boys in the back yard for jedi master training LOL. she gets emotional sometimes because my two sons always want to be with me..... but hey.... have to go watch Orange houswives!

 

Well in my experiences the cure for self absorption is really good sex!!

AA

 

Yup. they build up that dark side and then blow like a volcano.

feminists..... its all fun and games until they expect you to serve them.

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it works until they become so self absorbed you do all the work why they just have all the fun.

 

Man!!!

You guy's are dating the wrong feminists!!!

I find them to be really fun in the sack!

AA

 

I can barely count on two hands the ones I've been with who spent... not $10, not $20, but $50 or more a WEEK on tabloid trash magazines (how many of those types of mags are there? more than you think), buy ten of em at a time. They have DEGREES. They make hundreds of thousands of dollars due to affirmative action, yet have the intellectual composition of jellyfish. Worst musical taste imaginable... or "chameleon absorbed" it from past BFs (have gotten conned with that many times also). I found that women born after 1980 or before 1960 did not have the same issues my generation of women had to the same degree, so that's about it for me these days.

Damn, I think I've had too many beers.

 

Always amazed me how many feminists hang around bikers, who are not exactly famous for there PC ways.

But I concur with your assessment!

 

yeah but I am talking about the whole relationship thing. after 20 years of being married to the same woman i can tell you that getting along is more important than sex.

my wife is not a feminist by the way. But..... she is a woman and they operate psychologically on a different level than men. especially in this society who both men and women on average have little understanding of themselves.

i can tell you too that there is a fast growing segment of the male population that is just not interested in marriage and having kids with women because it basically become a big trap for men. i cant say i blame them either.

 

I wouldnt waste your time trying to figure out their motives. for the majority...They are very much creatures at the mercy of their own impulses and emotions. i have been married twenty years with two wild kids and its not really listening and understanding as it is attack and counterattack similar to some sort of ongoing Psyops chess game. You have to out think and out strategize them. one day your relationship will be a beautiful love story.... the next she goes full AMY from Gone Girl..... the next day its like nothing happened..... day after that its Play Misty For Me..... 4 hours later she tells you she wants to have another baby.

and Listen..... Mine is tame compared to most married men i know. supposedly It is common for them to have this stage between something like 35-45. a ten year span my friends and i talk about when they go through this crazy phase. In the mid to late 40s they realize they are not some special snowflake and are just another stain on the human race and mellow out. Then they are just crotchety and moody on a normal basis. But the ups and downs go away for the most part.

i will also add this. Of all the men i know who have been married and have young kids. The wives treat the husbands like absolute crap.

 

LOL... i might as well crack one open myself....yeah we are going to get attacked pretty soon here as soon as the feminists discover this thread.