I have found most have zero respect for boundaries

Then why do you pretend not to?

 

So you're ok with people running over and scaring a puppy so bad it shakes with fear and pees itself.

That's great in your opinion as long as it's a women and she is having a good time?

How the **** is that good socialisation?

 

Nope, not cool with that. Maybe you need to move to Houston. Never ever had such a problem round here.

 

That's exactly what was happening and exactly why I don't let Finn interact with women who do not respect mine and Finn's boundaries.

Why are you even arguing with me if you agree it's not ok!

Like I said I control interactions and don't allow strangers dictate terms. If someone looks like they will over excite Finn or cause him extreme fearthey will not be interacting with him.

After a LOT of work he's made a complete u turn and his becoming a very stable and confident dog as a result.

It seems that women are always preaching respect but don't give it (not all women) when it suits them. Hence why I made this thread.

 

Be this as it may, what possibly led you to post this under woman’s rights?

 

~ REMEMBER THIS :
If puppy should bite one of these ladies pestering you they are going to expect payment for their injury . Check on some liability insurance. Infections can be very expensive .
Good luck ...

 

Because there is no men's right thread. It's a gender issue as most men remain respectful and most women do not.

I found it's interesting women are always preaching respect and boundaries. But when I wanted women to respect my boundaries the magority of women fail to do so.

They would happily scare my puppy to death or cause extreme excitement as long as they got their fur baby fix.

I thought it's an interesting topic.. The hypocrisy of it. Also very interesting why men are clearly more respectful in this case.

Possibly could be due to men being constantly told to be respectful by society may have transferred over to respecting puppies?

It may not even be down to genetics... Women being wired to look after babies the puppy could be see as a potential baby for then to raise hence why they are so attracted to it.

Whilst men recognise the potential of the dog as a companion or kinda like a tool. Hence the inbuilt respect for training and guiding the puppy.

Just a theory.

 

Yeah bites are always a worry.

 

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No disrespect but it sounds like you don't know how to protect your dog's boundaries. It's your job to use a hand gesture or your body to block anyone coming in too close. You don't have to be mean. You just say "I'm not comfortable with that.". Many people want to play with cute animals and babies. That's their problem. Not yours.

 

It's getting easier now Finn is getting bigger (he's adult labrador size now).

I know what you are saying and it's what I do, but when he was really small it wasn't enough. I've literally had women say they don't care and try to touch him anyway. Sometimes being very blunt is the only way to stop it happening.

I know people probably see me as an over protective grumpy old man for not letting people condition my dog to be excited around strangers. But I care about my pup too much to allow others to screw him up.

He now visits a dog trainer where a lot of other German Shepherds attend. The trainer has taken me aside to tell me that I'm doing an great job at socialisation. Apparently the trainer regards him as the most stable and we'll balanced Shepard she has at the moment. Most of the others are over excited by or are fearful of strangers and over time if not addressed it will likely turn into aggression. She's told me that I should be proud as I've clearly put a lot if work into him .

I've also been teaching him how to react around other dogs but that's a different story altogether.

My point is it's hard to stop people touching your dog and a lot will take offense if you try to stop them . But i think it's vital to stop them condition your dog.

AND thank god he's looking older as its getting easier as he's not attracting as much focus from the cute puppy brigade.

 

It sounds like you are doing everything right!