No, not psychological help Im trying to determine the clinical term for a type of behavior so I can research it, but I don't know what it is. Whats it called when someone does something they know a loved one doesn't appreciate purely so they can try to use the resulting emotional response to guage the nature of their relationship with that loved one? And is it part of (whatever that is called) for that person to feel they are not cared about when they don't illicit the expected emotional response they were looking for, or is that something else entirely? I guess its kinda like someone wanting to be controlled or manipulated... Im trying to determine if this is normal/healthy human behavior (because it seems unhealthy to me) and how to best respond to it. But first I need to know how to look it up.