If a person is bisexual why would they choose to identify as gay?

If someone is bisexual then what would make them choose to life as a gay man/woman instead of a straight one - I can't see any advantages.

 

They fall in love with someone of the same sex. Love doesn't care about what is convenient.

 

Friend of mine says that as an over weight, balding heterosexual in his 50s he never got laid. As a homosexual he gets laid all the time.

 

http://www.fridae.asia/gay-news/printable.php?articleid=1047

To avoid the bisexual bashing from the LGs

 

YOU don't understand human sexuality very well; your comment above illustrates that is likely the truth.

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I don't believe that.

 

Because being bi-sexual fits in with the LGBT Community.

 

Except it doesn't. Politically it is a convenience, but in reality, many gays and lesbians are very bigoted toward bisexuals because they do not believe they exist. They believe that they are really gays who refuse to fully come out of the closet and therefore are traitors to the cause. In day to day life, bi's are often pariahs within the gay community comparable situation to a Christian who will defend Christianity and then turn around an attack LDS, Witnesses and the like behind closed doors.

 

I would call you out on this but is appears the need has been eliminated.

My partner of 6 years is bisexual. He has said many bisexual people choose to be labeled as straight in most settings because it makes life easier. This will probably change and we will begin to see more openly bisexual people as the stigma fades and the bigots die off.

 

There is nothing innate in homosexuality that precludes stereotyping, bigotry or superficiality. Yes there are some gays that continue marginalize or demean bisexuals and sneer at bisexuality, just as there are gays that feed into sexist or racial or anti-hetero stereotypes. We are not all open-minded reflections of inclusion and tensions within the LGBTQ community do have a long history. It is not the majority by any means, and great strides have been made at education and inclusion within that umbrella. I think calling bisexuals 'pariahs' is an exaggeration, but it would be disingenuous to say that bisexuals have not felt that way, and been given some reason to from time to time, in the past. We still have more work to do, but substantial progress has definitely been made in the last 15 years.

 

I never understood that, the anti bi mentality just perplexed me.

When talking to a few guys they mentioned they would not want to be left for a woman. That I couldn't understand, if somebody leaves me I don't want to be with them, and sure it would hurt, but if they left they aren't the one, it doesn't really matter if they left me for a woman, a man or a cult.

 

I don't pretend to understand other people's quirks like that. My circus has its own monkeys to wrangle. I guess it is kind of like blacks who rail against discrimination but oppose interracial marriages as a cultural issue as opposed to a legal one.

 

I suspect there is an ignorant suspicion that bisexuality is just a cowardly way to keep one foot safely in the hetero world, rather than an expression of an orientation. Some, I suppose, see it as nothing more than 'gay-lite' for those who can't handle a complete break with the hetero dream and social structure. It reflects an impatience and lack of understanding that demands that bisexuals 'sh** or get off the pot' as though bisexuality is a refusal to truly commit to the cause or the lifestyle. Its silly and inconsistent, but obstinate ignorance usually is. As I said above, there is nothing about being gay, that works as immunization against prejudice or intolerance.

 

excellent point.

 

I would imagine that it might be more simple than explaining the nuances of bisexualism.

Edit: I misinterpreted your question! Probably because they are not 50/50, but are closer to gay than straight? Or that the one true love of their life at that particular time happens to be male?

 

Well stated!!

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Great points!!

 

That is how it is I'm my case. Further, I am with someone that I intend to spend my life with. Should we break off, perhaps I'll consider an opposite sex partner, but this will be unlikely I have a stronger proclivity to my own sex.

Yep.

 

So sexuality is a choice made to "fit in".

Got it.

 

No, there are sociopolitical alliances to consider... no matter who you are. One choosing to identify and/or align themselves with LGBT, involves more than just the 'individual's' sexuality per se.

 

You should take that with your lefty friend who spouts irrelevant one-liners in every single thread on PC.com, because he said:

 

More STUPID labeling and name calling.

Please, stop it.

 

Its harder to get a man than a woman. Women just let anyone do them. Men buck, it's unnatural.

 

you must just want anyone who's ever fallen to sin, to be exiled to sin forever.

 

I didn't realize lefty was so offensive, but I called no names.

How many times have you announced putting me on ignore? Why do you even see me?





Inb4 your report.

 

Really.

What are you talking about? You aren't even on the topic. What the heck?!

Even so:

Well, one's sexuality is experienced and approached on a personal basis. Just because one is a "bisexual"... that does not entail that there is some certain set of 'advantages' that they must choose. In truth, most 'healthy' people find people they love, are sexually compatible with and go on from there. From where ANY of us sit in this forum, one could only imagine the possibilities.

 

I am not religious and I don't think in terms of 'sin'. I distinguish between moral, amoral and immoral behavior and between ethical and unethical conduct, but I do not recognize a God that determines what is or is not 'sin'.

For example, instead of asking what kind of sex a person seeks, or what gender that person chooses as a romantic or sexual partner, I ask about keeping promises, being forthright and truthful, and behaving honorably in the course of a relationship. There is no God that I check with, no Bible I use as a guide.