My ONE problem with homosexual men

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  1. Polydectes

    Polydectes Well-Known Member

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    Men proposition you or they pull out their genitals and harass you?
     
  2. Polydectes

    Polydectes Well-Known Member

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    Yeah I don't believe that.
     
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    I am neither liberal or progressive, but when it comes to sexual exposure, that is not limited to gays, it just happens so get over it.

    When I was in my twenties I was a rather slim man with blonde hair halfway down my back, I was in good shape and from behind I literally looked like a female and had a number of men, maybe some gay who hit up on me and a few in the process exposed what they had to offer, off to the side of a party bathroom or whatever.

    Conversely I had a number of females who had no problem with exposing their racks looking for the same encounter.

    My answer to the guys was "nicely hung, your good looking but I'm not into that," for the females it was "lets go to my place."

    I would never react with violence or running out of the bathroom screaming, queer, queer, queer, that would be just stupid.

    People do stupid all the time, one has to live with it and violence is not a way of solving that, in fact that is really a dumb reaction and could get you arrested.
     
  4. Greenleft

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    It's not limited to gays. I get that. It's the fact that they can corner you in the bathroom. I react by getting defensive. It's different doing it outside in the park where you have space to run away or on the sidewalk or mall with lots of traffic both cars and pedestrians as witnesses. In an alley after dark is indeed a problem and people have taken precautions for that.

    And what's wrong with running out of the bathroom alerting everybody?

    If you read further, I pointed out that it took undercover police to catch high profile people (George Michael and Larry Craig) doing it.
     
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    Well Bonded Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    What's the threat and why the need to alert anyone?

    Just grow up and get over it.
     
  6. Renee

    Renee Well-Known Member

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    There’s the extremism again
     
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    Renee Well-Known Member

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    That’s how women feel but we can’t beat them up
     
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    You misspelled "I like to use hyperbole".
     
  9. DoctorWho

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    That is a statement indicative of Bigotry.
    Many straight men pass AIDS / HIV and other STDs by promiscuous sexual behaviour.
     
  10. Well Bonded

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    One can scan the net and find thousands of "so called" straight men, many of them, who in their posts mention they are married and need to be on the DL, seeking sex with other males.

    I have a friend of mine, who at one time worked as part of a multi-jurisdictional task force scanning the net looking out for guys who where looking for younger males, juveniles, to have sex with and the majority of who they busted where married males seeking sex with young boys.

    So much for the lie that gay men, being a social minority, are the majority of the ones doing such.
     
  11. Kenneth Erwin Engelhardt

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    Yeah - violence is the worst possible response because you don't know that person and his possible reaction. A politely worded "not interested" is the best way to handle this.
     
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    I briefly worked at a service station in the UK. In the toilets, there are holes in the partitions and doors for guys to look through at others on toilets and at the urinals. Over here, we call them Willy Watchers.

    It's a perversion, they need therapy.
     
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    Over here we have toe tappers, if a guy sitting on a toilet is seeking another man to have sex with he simply waits until the next stall over is occupied, he then moves his foot next to the divider and taps his toe, if the person in the other stall does the same that indicates to come over next door and have some form of sex.
     
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    There is a MDOT rest stop along I-275 highway that gained this reputation to the point that made the local news and the state police had to maintain a presence there. This public rest stop is in a rural area surrounded by farmers fields, so most of these persons had to drive quite some distance to "hookup" there.
     
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    Where they corn fields by any chance? ;-)
     
  16. Nonnie

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    It's all revolting.

    I remember in the news when George Michael got caught in Beverly Hills park by an undercover police officer in the toilets for lewd behaviour. In an interview, he said, "Well look at me, if I came onto a guy, who would turn me down". Two things, big headed and the majority are not perverts.
     
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    Many years ago when I was loaned to U-verse, they where short on techs and overloaded with trouble tickets, one of my tickets was a home in Davie FL, the complaint was internet too slow, I knocked on the door and was greeted by a fat slob wearing only a pair of shorts, he and his home reeked of weed so I just wanted to clear the trouble and get out ASAP, he lead me to his PC where I connected my Sunset DSL meter and all seemed normal, I had good download speeds so I decided to check his PC and see if some obvious was wrong.

    I pressed the space bar to bring up the monitor and was greeted with a image of two pre-pubescent boys performing oral sex on each other, I thought to myself WTF is going on here, the guy quickly decided his internet was just fine and sent me on my way.

    I contacted my foreman and told him what I had seen and was advised in a customers home we don't see anything, but I should do what my conscience was telling me to do, I contacted the Davie police and filed a report, a short time later I received a call requesting I come over to the PD and meet with a detective, he had me explain while being recorded what happened, I was asked to sign a statement, which I did.

    A few months later I was served with a notice to appear at a trial as a witness, and was hit with a subpoena to give a deposition at the guys attorneys office, which I did.

    In the end the guy took a plea deal and was sent to prison for possessing child pornography, turned out the detective got a search warrant and they hit the guys home very early one morning and seized his PC's where they found all kinds of graphic images of children having sex.

    Did I violate company policy, yes but I couldn't let what I saw on that monitor slide.
     
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    As an upstanding citizen it is your right to do the right thing and report the incident to your local law enforcement agency and let them deal with the situation as they see fit. And not go all ballistic and assault the person who exposed himself to you.
     
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    I have had a woman lift her shirt, try to push her breasts in my face and indicate her desire to do far more. As I was not interested and did nothing to prompt this beyond performing I simply said no ,thank you. It is an easy and effective reaction that does nothing but embarrass the offender and make them think....that would be your best action if he actually did something, he did not so you are simply venting.
     
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    True enough, dropping down to a criminal level is no way to solve a rather deviant sexual crime.

    Than again with my warped sense of humor I would probably ask the guy to whip it out again and let me see it once more, then after he did I would bust out laughing and exclaim something like "good lord, I have seem many a man naked, but I have never seen a guy with something that tiny, what happened, was your father a hamster or some other small rodent?" ;-)
     
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    If you ever meet her again give her my number I could always use a naked housekeeper around here.
     
  22. LazyPeanurd

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    Let me get this "straight"...so to speak.

    You encountered a glory hole in Germany. Upon this encounter, your conclusion is that all homosexual men are inclined to expose themselves in public restrooms?
     
  23. Dissily Mordentroge

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    In my youth many decades ago in the city I grew up in there were no gay clubs, the few gay hotels were often raided by police and nothing like Grinder existed.
    So, being a exceeding randy young thing I hung around public toilets and parks known to attract fairies. I did however refuse to have sex in these places always asking to be taken home. Somewhere in my mid 20’s I came to realise that one reason straight men hated gays was due to either being proposition in pubic places by gay men or walking in on two or more males having sex. I gave up picking up men in such locations and decades later still avoid doing so. On the other hand I’ve learnt from surveys conducted during the early days of the AIDS epidemic by several universities here in Australia the highest percentage of men who had sex on a regular basis in public places were married to or in a relationship with women.
    Go figure.
     
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    Not in Africa. Today the fastest growing group contracing AIDS are heterosexuals who have somehow been made to believe HIV only attacks gay man and maybe junkies.
     
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    As a 73 year old gay man I’m old enough to remember as a young thing the only meeting places available to gay men were public parks and toilets. I hated the toilets and never had sex in them only ever arranging to ‘go somewhere’. When I became involved with the Gay Liberation Front I soon realised one of the main reasons we were hated was this business of straight men being approached for sex in public places. I stopped doing it but the emergence of gay clubs and hotels made it a lot easier. Now here’s the part that really surprised me. During the early days of the AIDS epidemic Sydney and Newcastle Universities conducted research of men who haunted toilets and public parks for sex. They learnt over 65% of these men were married to women. Many of them didn’t think they could get AIDS because ‘I’m not really a poofter, I just have sex with men sometimes” etc Go figure.
    Today there really is no excuse for chasing gay sex in toilets and public parks but there appears to be a stubborn group of men who wouldn’t be seen dead entering a gay club or hotel etc because their wife, also an employer or buddy might spot them on Grindr or other gay contact sites.
    There’s another side to this seldom spoken of. I’ve worked in a number of environments surrounded by ‘straight' workmates. ( An Australian expression only I suspect). Being openly gay triggered some interesting approaches. The number of ‘straight' males who thought I would give them a head job or more just because I was gay (therefore some kind of slut) was amazing. These requests were invariably made when they got me alone and accompanied by ‘But don’t tell me mates” (buddies in the US).
    I always told them I’d not only tell their buddies but if they were married I’d require written permission from their wife on solicitor’s letterhead. They suddenly lost interest .
    Related to this is the history of male/male sexuality in the military but thats another subject.
    https://www.amazon.com/One-Boys-Homosexuality-Military-During/dp/0773537147
    https://www.amazon.com/My-Queer-War-James-Lord/dp/0374217483/ref=pd_sim_sbs_b_3
    http://www.smh.com.au/national/a-secret-history-of-sexuality-on-the-front-20121220-2bp9m.html
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    My apologies. Just discovered this post is a long winded version of one I’d made earlier on this thread. At my age memory for such things is a real problem.
     
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