My Second Life and other Secrets

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  1. HereWeGoAgain

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    I quickly found myself contemplating a familiar problem. What do I do now? If I go too far too fast, I might scare her off. If I do nothing, she may not realize how I feel and I could miss out on a wonderful future. With number one, I hid my feelings for six months; only to have a classic Freudian Slip betray my silence. What a moment. I meant to say, "I feel closer every time I see you." But what came out was, "I fall more in love every time I see you." LOL! I swear, no one was more shocked than me! So I don't want to run that play again! :D

    After struggling with this I remembered that I solved this problem with Number One. The trick is not to tell her how I feel. The trick is to show her how I feel. Show her by the way I kiss her and hold her. Show her with the way I treat her. Show her by making love to her. Words only muddy the waters. The trick is to make her feel what I feel.
     
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    "Dear diary,
    Today I went on a date with Miss Universe. The dinner was superb and the sex was even better. Suddenly, I found myself in love. In love for the first time since grade-school."

    - The real made-up adventurous stories from the real fictional life of HereWeGoAgain.
     
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    Funny, it had never occurred to me that people wouldn't believe me. Go to a sugar daddy site and see for yourself. Anyone with the balls and the means can give it a go. I suppose those lacking in both will be jealous.

    I must say, I never imagined my life would be so amazing that people would accuse me of lying. I have come a long way from holding a gun to my own head.
     
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    I'd prefer a real relationship tbh, so a manwh*re finding himself a wh*ress or "sugar-babe" does not make me jelly at all. :)

    If it is true, I am happy for you. :)
     
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    HereWeGoAgain Banned

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    Then why take crackpot shots when I am bearing my heart and soul? I looked at your profile. You are 24 years old. I would give my right arm to have known at 24 what I know now. I almost had to die to learn what I am sharing. You might try to benefit from that.

    At this point, I was just giving an update. It was a big turn of events for me and I am bouncing off the walls. But the real message has nothing to do with sugar babies. I have learned there are many kinds of love. Sometimes it is better to be happy now and live in the moment, than to hope for forever. By doing this I have found more joy than I thought possible - the joy of reckless abandon in affairs of the heart. I have experienced both heartbreak and joy beyond anything I had ever experienced. I have lived more in the last five years than in the previous 45.
     
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    Well, I am glad you've managed to find love again and hope it works out fine for you. :)
     
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    He is warning you, that is for sure! He is showing you the life of a bitter old man. ;)
     
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    I can totally understand why his wife wouldn't want to have sex with him.
     
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    Don't believe it for a minute. He is obviously still very much in love with his ex wife. :D
     
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    Eeeeeesh! This suddenly got complicated - walking on eggshells. Can't say too much, can't say too little.

    I no sooner succumb to the arrow of Cupid when I received a worrisome text. Now that she has finished school, she found out that she will have to travel a bit for work. In the beginning I had indicated that this was becoming an issue because she was gone so much. But it was just bad timing. I met her just as she was off to do a bit of traveling. When she received word that she was now expected to travel for work, she was afraid I wouldn't want to see her anymore. She said she definitely did want to keep seeing each other, but that could work two ways. She could be sincere, or she might be trying to let me down lightly. So I felt compelled push a bit and see what happened.

    I didn't want to use the L word. Even though I am feeling it, even for me it is too soon to go there. But I wanted to convey the fact that I have grown to care about her deeply, very quickly, and I said words to that effect. I wanted to say enough to be sure she understands that I am falling for her. But not so much to cross the line. Doing this [SD/SB arrangement] means that while it might last for several years or even more, it can't last forever. At least that is not to be expected. So if she starts to feel that I care too much, she might run. Trying to dance on eggshells, I sent the text and sat here holding my breath. Thank goodness she responded enthusiastically and in kind. I believed she is genuinely falling for me, and I have gotten pretty good at reading things but I wasn't 100% sure. Her text threw me for a moment. Glad to say she confirmed that I am reading things accurately enough.

    Whewww! I could barely breathe while I was waiting for her reply. But at this point I wanted to be sure she doesn't take our relationship lightly.
     
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    What makes my approach unique is also what can cause confusion. It takes time to convey the new set of rules: That was what I had to get Number One to understand before she really opened up. If we can have a few great years together, that's all that I can really expect. In fact, I never expected it to last a year. But there is no sense in holding back. Why not make the most of every moment? Unless I get tired of her or need to move on first, it will be hard to let go. I accept that. But that's no reason to not fall in love in the meantime. Even with over two years of a broken heart, I am a much better person for having loved Number One so deeply. I can't regret a moment of it. Love doesn't have to be forever to be worth it. Number One made me happier than I thought possible. Twenty-five years with my wife pale in comparison to three years with the greatest love of my life.

    This is why I need to hold back until she understands. Who knows? This one could last a long time. We are a fantastic match. But that is the great thing about living in the moment. I don't have to worry about that. I can hope, but it will be what it will be. I expect that one day she will break my heart. I just need her to be okay with that as well before I really start to open up. She can't be afraid to love me back. That's the trick.

    It took 18 months for Number One to tell me she loved me. And when she did, she was sobbing almost uncontrollably. She tried so hard but I was relentless.

    So here we go. She's here tomorrow and we are on a new plateau. But this time, I don't have to win her affections. In a sense we are further along after a few months than Number One and I were after year. Number One didn't want to get real close. That took a long time. But my new girl has not only opened up from the start, she picked me.
     
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    :laughing: What a basket case.
     
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    Last night we had a real heart to heart. I explained my entire philosophy with the overlay being that I'm falling in love with her. I didn't say it but strongly alluded to it. I said, so you have permission to break my heart when it's time to move on. I explained my approach of reckless abandon and how I find that love is worth the price of a broken heart. Please just be honest with me. There are no expectations. She is totally on board and says she feels the same way. We talked about this lasting a long time. At one point she even asked leading questions and alluded to a permanence - she even mentioned children. And then we most certainly made love.

    So it seems this highly experimental approach is going to work; at least for now. And I am definitely falling in love. We have a wonderful time together. We've been doing all sorts of outdoor activities and having a blast. Her touch affects me like a drug. We have wonderful sexual chemistry with a real sense of adventure. She is a pure joy.

    It took two years of dating like a madman, with lot of twists and turns, and plenty of women running scams and telling lies, but I got to have a lot of fun looking for the right woman. :D

    PS. Lambskin condoms! Wow! They cost about $5 a pop but are worth every penny.
     
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    Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length - Robert Frost

    Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away - Maya Angelou
     
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    Out of the blue I received an email from my Number One. To an extent I understand why she sent it now... some stuff going on in her life, but it means so much to me and I wanted to share it. She once told me that I have never shown her anything but unconditional love. That is undeniably true. I had no choice. But it was nice to get a bit of closure. We never really had that. I haven't talked to her for over a year now. It's funny that I would get this now because for the first time since she left, I am finally getting over her and have found new love.

    I still love her more than I can possibly say, and I always will.
     
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    First off great story, and I'm glad you're happy.

    Unfortunately I'm a really boring guy. Was raised with that unexciting notion that work and labor defines a man
     
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    I'm not sure what work and labor have to do with this? I got my first job at about age 7 and have been working ever since.

    What I suspect I am hearing is more about breaking all the rules. I only did that after putting a gun to my head and trying to pull the trigger. I did what I needed to do to survive. I had to find a reason to live again. It is really that simple. In the process I have built a new life I never could have imagined. It isn't perfect by any stretch but it has been an amazing ride!

    I didn't want my marriage to be a nightmare. I didn't want my life to be turned upside. I didn't intend to go so far down the rabbit hole that I couldn't see the light of day anymore. I never wanted any of this. For many years I thought my life was set. But a man does what he needs to do to survive. Unfortunately many men my age don't make it. See the suicide statistics.

    Honestly, if you would have told me ten years ago that in ten years, this would be my life, there is no way I ever would have believed it. It was literally beyond my imagination.
     
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    PS, I used to tease Number One about her woo woo stuff, as I called it. This is the first I've heard of our souls going way back. But I know she has gotten deeper into spirituality.

    That's as good of an explanation as any. It is interesting that this is where her beliefs take her.
     
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    It's not too weird. Usually those people think they won't be able to find any better, and they're terrified of being alone. Or their parents had the same dynamic, and it's not "wrong" to them.
     
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    I've been avoiding this thread because the OP is longer than I like, but I was bored and decided to give it a whirl. Some fascinating stuff in here. Are you still with this girl?
     
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    Yes. Or justification from others.
     
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    You talk a lot about being in love and telling others what love is while acknowledging that all of your relationships have been mercenary. Are you sure this thread shouldn't be titled "My two competing personalities?"
     
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    We were talking about second lives.

    I work 60-80 hours a week and then cross things off my home improvement to do list. And I watch television.
     
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    That was my first life. But you left out spending ALL of my money on crap I could care less about. Just give the wife everything I make and work till I drop. And be sure my life insurance policy is up to date. It finally reached a point where I would rather be dead than face another day.
     

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