My Second Life and other Secrets

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  1. HereWeGoAgain

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    Things have been crazy. My friend had a change of heart for reasons unknown. My gf was disappointed but I told her not to worry. We can always take a trip and see a high-end escort. But I activated my account at one of my favorite sd sites and did some exploring. After contacting about a dozen women I found one whose profile had that special ring to it. She's 30, likes women, sounds fun, is quite beautiful and definitely a bit on the wild side. I also sensed she would be dominant with another woman, which is what my gf likes and what I know she wants. I also managed to construct a reasonable message that would convey a clear sense of what I have in mind. She was all over it and sounded really cool.

    We agreed to meet for coffee and had a great first meet. This is all moving fast and we are hoping to get together next weekend. So in order to have a chance to get to know each other, we spent most of Sunday together; just talking and eating. We ended the day by going out for a nice dinner. We had a wonderful time! She is a lot of fun and hugely adventurous. And the idea of having a regular threesome is very appealing to her. She understands this is all just testing the waters but anything is possible.

    I have a video of my gf just playing around on a trip we took. It conveys a strong sense of her spirit and her different looks. My new friend, I'll call her Suzy, and I watched it. I think she is as enamored with my gf as much as I am. At one point when my gf does something really cute, I said, "Doesn't that just make you want to have sex with her?! "yes... YES!", she replied as she stared at screen and smiled. :D

    All along I kept my gf informed as things progressed and sent photos back between the two. At one point I told her I think Suzy is going to have her way with you! "HAHA! OMG I'm really getting excited now!" she replied. But it was the funniest thing. I suddenly found myself acting as wing man for my gf and playing matchmaker for two women!!! And then, when my gf and I got together, I pointed out that we may not have another chance to get her a new toy before we all meet. So off to the sex shop we went.

    For a moment, my old self popped up and said, how about if you go in and I'll wait in the car. Why? She needed to buy a strapon! If I go in, everyone will think she's going to use it on me!!! LOL!!! But that was only for a moment. The new me doesn't care. So we went in and picked out a strapon she liked along with a few other things. Using a strapon is a big part of her lesbian fantasies so this was a must. At one point she started looking a little shy in the store. So I kissed her on the cheek and told her don't be shy, and grabbed her by the hand. After she picked out a strapon she came over and kissed me on the cheek and gave me the sweetest look. That gets me every time! I know whats she wants and she knows what she wants. but she's still working on being honest with herself.

    This was priceless. When we got back to my place she wanted to try it on. The next thing I know, she is jumping up and down with her penis flopping all over the place, and laughing almost uncontrollably while asking, "Hey, is this what it's like for you guys?!?!

    That's something I'll never forget.

    A funny note:
    I studied piano for over eight years. I'm not highly accomplished but was pretty good at one time.
    The first girl I really hit is off with was a better pianist than I am.
    My Number One [first sb] was a pianist on par with my capabilities.
    My new sb/gf is a highly accomplished, classically trained pianist - symphony level stuff. She is AMAZING!!!
    The new girl I met, Suzy, is a classically trained vocalist with many years of training. She sings semi-professionally.

    I'm sensing a pattern here. These have been the most significant women in my life since this all first started.

    This is also a recurring theme. I don't have any huge fetishes, I'm a little into light bondage but regular ole missionary is always fine as well. I'm always up for play but it isn't a big deal to me either way. BUT, the women are often just waiting for someone to ask. This is about the fifth or sixth time that I have ended up helping a young woman explore her own sexuality. I suspect most guys tell them what they want, but never ask. What would you like to do? I once asked a young lady if she has any fetishes. "Yeah! Ropes!!! She replied while almost jumping off the couch. She couldn't wait to be tied up! And she didn't want velcro straps. She wanted real ropes. So I quickly learned the ropes and we were off to the races. All I had to do was ask. When we get comfortable and and we gain a little trust, and they know I'm not weird about it, it doesn't take long at all for something like this to come up.
     
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    tecoyah Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    I'm pretty sure we all sense a pattern here.
     
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    HereWeGoAgain Banned

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    And what would that be?

    The lid is off and many young people see marriage as a failed concept. People feel free to explore their sexuality without the previous constraints. Polyamory is a very popular concept. You can learn and expand your mind, or judge. Your choice.

    My goal is simple. I am looking for the next great love of my life. And I may have found her. This is a shared experience and something she wants to do. Nothing wrong with that in my book. There are always risks involved in something like this. And I thought about that a lot. But nothing worth while comes without risk. This could also be a very special experience that we both cherish. And it could help bring us closer together. It will certainly give us a unique connection.
     
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    That your fixation on sexual exploits and bragedotious banter indicates a level of "Imagination" and insecurity bordering on mental illness. That if true the emotional trauma somewhere in your past has corrupted any possibility of obtaining the stability and love most people seek in relationships. That your need to display extremely personal information concerning what should be private and well guarded life choices hints at a need to feel accepted as more than you feel you actually are and that rather than the envy you hope for, Pity is the actual result of this diatribe.
     
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    I am just telling the story as it occurs. It has been an amazing experience and the women especially appreciate me telling it like it is. They know I do this and they love it. I think those who feel the need to judge should take a look in the mirror. What you are reading is pure, unadulterated honesty, right from the heart. And it is the story of a most unconventional search for true love.

    I'm a really smart guy. You should try to learn something from this.

    I almost had to commit suicide before I was willing to open my mind.
     
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    Have you ever thought of doing a search to see if there's a specific forum where elderly men can 'act out' their fantasies?
     
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    Much of what you describe in this "Journal" I have already experienced and learned from....It was certainly entertaining at the time and led to growth into who I am today. I have found that anyone who feels the need to tell me how smart they are, usually is not. I have also found that this same concept applies to fish stories that try to create mental imagery of persona. I am pleased you found your away from self destruction, but this too is an easily fabricated attention ploy used by many individuals in emotional pain and mental distress.
    In short, this crying blog does not serve the purpose you hope it will and the respect you crave is found within yourself rather than from internet strangers.
     
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    HereWeGoAgain Banned

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    Crud, another delay but necessarily so. None of us are current on our STD tests. Suzy brought it up. We have all been monogamous for the last six months but we can never really be careful enough. So Suzy is going to join us for drinks and the women can get acquainted before we all run down to the clinic. That will take a few days plus the time to get appointments.

    I keep thinking this is best anyway. It allows them time to get to know each other first. This was all feeling a bit rushed.
     
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    You are so full of it.
     
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    I thought this was going to be a thread about second (and third, fourth etc) lives.

    Instead, it seems to be about old guy fantasies?
     
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    seriously repulsive, on so many levels.
     
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    not wanting anything to do with a smoker isn't FUSSY, it's bare minimum :p
     
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    If you can be convinced that a 22 year old 'centrefold' is in love with you, anything is possible.

    Meantime, you might want to consider that time doesn't stand still. Even if you could actually find a much younger partner who was genuine ... the chances of it happening even 5 years from now are remote. That's the payback you get when you make a fetish of youth.
     
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    You have zero concerns about what that says about her character? If she's willing to risk her own, yours, and any childrens' health by smoking?
     
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    ah ... why didn't you just have a string of girlfriends?
     
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    Well-adjusted men don't have anything like a mid-life crisis. The MAJORITY of men don't have them.

    Having one is a sign of general dysfunction. It's a poor adjustment to ageing and declining 'importance' (well adjusted people welcome this opportunity to let the kids take over), coupled with narcissism and an inflated sense of entitlement.
     
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    Too many armchair psychologists around here.
     
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    So this has evolved from him initially declaring to finally have found true love - to bragging he is in a bisexual swingers circle. :roflol:
     
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    It is pretty clear this entire thread is merely mental masturbation for a frustrated teen in the basement who does not have the motivation to get on the treadmill sitting in the dusty corner. The Cheeto encrusted keyboard being his only true friend is probably due for replacement because of sticky residue making his porn searches increasingly difficult. While childhood fantasy is completely normal and acceptable, expecting or wishing for others to participate is rather pathetic and disturbing.
    I would recommend a serious self evaluation of your life and expansion of it to include more time outside, preferably around actual people...with time they may become actual friends.
     
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    I keep thinking that if some people lost some weight, got some exercise, spent less time on the internet or watching porn, and spent some time learning to socialize, they wouldn't be so angry at me. :) I completely changed my life and worked my ass off doing it. And now I am reaping the benefits. But I guess it's easier to live in denial and judge.. and have a Big Gulp.

    As for some older women hating me, that's to be expected. But I never cheated on my wife and I treat women like princesses - every one I meet. They know me to be a kind, honorable, and loving man who works very hard to make them happy. So go ahead and hate. I have nothing to be ashamed of.

    My second life began the day I began to ignore popular opinion. Remember that guys. You will be judged harshly. And some people will hate you just for finding happiness. Many women think men my age have some kind of obligation to date or marry in our own age bracket. But I never signed a contract.
     
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    H my sincere apologies, clearly I've hurt your feelings. I viewed your openness as a willingness to discuss the potential harsher side of what you engage yourself with. Please forgive me.
     
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    Well you have to admit that you seem to be so preoccupied with this kind of stuff that there are bound to be those who suspect you're on some kind of hobbyhorse?? [​IMG]

    Edit - nobody hates you.
     
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    If indeed the OP is an older man living the life he portrays, there are serious mental issues taking place that should be addressed as soon as possible. Just the fixation of young hot women and lack of interest in who they actually are indicates immaturity in relationships.
     
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    When I was in my early 20s, no way would I be interested in a guy in his 40s. I don't care how much money he has. That would have felt like dating my dad! Lol and eww. And I wasn't EVEN a playboy centerfold. :blankstare: I dated a guy in his mid 30s once, and I felt like he was too old for me. We were at different points in life, had different interests, had not that much in common. I wanted to hang out with my friends and go to the clubs and go dancing. He was more into a calm and quiet life. Now, that I'm older, I totally understand that, but back then, it was boring.
     
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