Questions... to ask oneself, Emotional Intelligence: The Social Skills You Weren't Taught in School

I dunno, I've just been introspective lately & sort of emotionally depressed. Is this a 'curse' of my generation; having so much handed to us w/o the 'sweat equity' & realization that life is "tough"...?



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What you are feeling may be perfectly normal. Being an adult means the problems just keep coming.

My ex wife used to say, "Life sucks and then you die". That is one reason I dumped her. She was always so dark and negative about EVERYTHING. But a lot of people feel that way.

After almost shooting myself in the head to end it all, I realized that happiness is a choice. That is probably the most important thing I realized through all of that.

The other was to make the most of the time you have. You only have one shot at life. Don't miss the things you really want to do.

 

https://fivebooks.com/best-books/emotional-intelligence-daniel-goleman/

This a good read, but it's Buddhist based (in case that's an issue for you). Buddhism in general is great as a sort of layman's self-help psychology. Also highly recommend checking out Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). It's another type of self help that's pretty effective while being accessible to the average person... it's very straight forward... just requires objectivity.

 

Not many have looked into that abyss.

Not something those that haven't will ever understand.

 

My answer to 'looking into the abyss' has so many layers & permutations of meaning - that I dare not confound them with the clumsiness of my poor attempts at articulating them.

All that I can say is that without something greater than myself out there... I'm an emotional goner, let alone the 'forever thing'...!
'for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world'. rings true for me and gives me hope... (from the Bible)

 

Some people call it a crutch, I call it a gift.

Whatever being it is that you connect with, (although it's God) uses that experience with you to come into your life in a way that not many people can experience.

It is He that reaches out His hand at the last second and saves you just before you leap and you forever know that.

It gives you a closeness I don't think that many outside of that experience can know.

 

I got into psychology to a certain degree (until construction work got busy again) and I remember studying EIQ some years ago. At the same time, I used to buy various computer magazines that came with CD's. On one CD was an EIQ test. It was multiple choice and although I achieved a reasonable highish score, I just couldn't really increase on it, no matter what other studying I did.

So I think your EIQ is what it is, how well you get on with others. I remember working in retail and why a guy with an engineering degree was stacking shelves in a shop. His EIQ was poor, he grated on people, and infact, when I became manager, I sacked him.

Feeling depressed or low is separate from EIQ, people just need to change their beliefs with a little CBT. Over the years, I've come across various sayings -

1- Everyone has different beliefs
2- You can't lead a positive life with a negative mind
3- The future you see is the future you get
4- Don't pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one - Bruce Lee
5- Life is too short, if you don't like what you're doing, quit, get out and go do what makes you happy
6- Quit the negative people around you

 

I used to feel that way. I tend to think it all comes down to being promised blissful immortality if you make the right choices. Suffer, suffer, suffer, the more you suffer the more you glorify god. Give up everything you have and follow me.

In other words, don't expect to be happy in this life, so bet your life on a story. And by the way, give us your money.

The final stage of grief due to loss, is acceptance. Accepting that we don't know the answers is key.

 

Life is Pain, Pain is Knowledge, Knowledge is Life.....Rinse and Repeat.