To straight marriage minded females: do you intend to keep a spouse sexually satisfied

I keep seeing a number of sources lamenting a lack of traditional men as marriageable and it has me curious.

Frigidity in traditional, common law was grounds for a fault based divorce.

People fall short of goals all the time but I am wondering if, in current year, do straight, marriage minded females INTEND to keep a spouse sexually satisfied. Is it a goal to enthusiastically sexually support a male spouse?

There is, of course, no obligation to do so. It is the intention or lack there of I find interesting.

So, your thoughts?

 

I don't think women go into a marriage thinking "I'll deprive my spouse of sex, just to mess with him".

My opinion, two cents that it's worth.

Of course, the same question could be asked of men...….

 

In common law there was the concept of reciprocity. If a bride is frigid AND the groom is as well... reciprocity. They have no cause for divorce. If the man only is frigid, she has grounds for fault based divorce.
You can ask the same of men. It likely doesn't occur to them, the duty to keep a spouse satisfied, as men are typically the ones that want it more often and initiate. Saw a Ted Talk with a woman sex therapist telling a true story.
Bride: Why do you always initiate
Groom: OK, we will not have sex again until you initiate.
Therapist: That was 8 years ago.

 

If a woman is in the mood, yes. If she is not in the mood, no. Husbands must respect their wives feelings. Women are human beings, not robots who perform on command.

 

I didn't vote in the poll because I am not marriage minded. I still wanted to express my feelings, though.

 

Any other takers? I predict most are of Moriah's, posted above view but I may get surprised.

 

And women need to respect their men's needs.

Since when does a man consent to give total control of his sex life to his wife; and her whims?

The obvious solution is to give up on monogamy.

 

I would like to point out that sexual activity is always a two way street and if a man allows himself to become unattractive physically or is an unpleasant individual any self respecting woman will probably lose interest.

 

A lot of women lose interest BECAUSE they feel secure. When the nesting instincts take over, the sex drive can take a back seat.

By doing all the right things, by being loving and supportive and providing a sense of security, the man can sabotage his own sex life.

And the last time I looked, there are a lot of fairly buff guys hanging with chubby women. A lot of women are letting themselves go these days and getting fat. I went to a club one night to meet women and they were ALL fat! But almost all of the guys were pretty buff.

Back to internet dating for me!!! LOL!

 

And you know this...because?

 

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/a...get-bored-sex-long-term-relationships/582736/
I've read this from a number of sources.

 

I see....so you base your blanket statement on an article about one couple and a woman who wants kinky sex?

 

Exactly how many links do you need? I'm sure a google search will come up with a ton.
Do you even think the basic statement, that men want sex far more often than their spouses do unlikely?

 

I find that to be quite likely in my experience as I am male and really like sex. Thing is, I have also found the women do as well and also know from experience we are all different in this. I am sure there are women who get "Bored" with their sex lives and men as well but also KNOW that can be easily remedied with very pleasant side effects.

 

Marriage is a joke.

Just look at the Divorce rate.

 

The rate is not as bad as I'd thought but sounds like it used to be https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-myth-of-the-high-rate-of-divorce/ It hit a high of 40% of 1st marriages now down to 30%. But how much of that decline is caused by fewer and fewer people doing it to begin with? The consequences can be horrifying. Example:

 

For some people who think it's all about a buff body, six-pack abs and perky boobs, then yes, don't bother getting married.

For those who base their relationship on common interests, friendship, common goals and commitment, we are doing pretty well, thank you.

 

If a woman loves her husbands she wants to make him happy. Same goes for a man who loves his wife.

 

The divorce rate reflects our throw-away culture to a certain extent. Marriage is hard? This isn't how it looked on the TV shows and movies!?! WTFLOLROFLYOLO!! Throw it away!

Marriages are work. If you ever see people in the media or books or wherever saying otherwise, they are lying or are part of the .0001 percent. But marriage isn't work just because it's a marriage, it's the underlying relationship that is. Unmarried couples have the same issues to manage and overcome as married couples.

People aren't always ready for marriage. Others aren't cut out for it at all. But it's still enough of a tradition and social custom that people just tend to do it without expecting the work that comes with it. It's never been marriage that was the joke, it was the relationship and the people in it.

 

I'd like to point out that, contrary to popular belief right now, people in a marriage have a duty to satisfy their spouse.

This isn't just casual sex where you can go find someone else to hook up with if your current partner isn't meeting your needs.

The usual 'consent' and 'two way street' concept doesn't apply in the same way.

Yes, if a married woman doesn't want to have sex that night she can hold out, but how long is that going to last? And if she keeps holding out, how long does she think that marriage is going to last?

 

The title of this thread always reminds me of the old joke about what is the difference between a clitoris and a pub? Answer 9 out of 10 men can actually find a pub......

Takes two to tango you know.....

 

I....as an avid history buff....have studied extensively the manual and techniques of one of the true innovators and legends of the past.

 

That could account for your good health care.

 

Women put up with sex for the sake of a relationship.

Men put up with a relationship for the sake of sex.

 

Perhaps you should sample more women for your survey?