Often it is said that good looking people have always had it easier in, pretty much, every aspect of life. Of course a thing like finding a partner it is obvious that good looks will get you further than bad looks, but it is often said this notion also applies to career, social netword and general well being. So, I now turn to the PF-community in order to discuss this question in hopes of finding the answer (lol). Basis for discussion: - Do you think attractive people have it easier in every aspect of life? - Does looks really dictate how people feel about you as a person? - Do you think an attractive person has a higher chance of getting a job than an equally qualified unattractive person? - Is this just pathetic bogus that has no substance whatsoever? Feel free to share what comes to your mind, how you feel, what science says and what your life-experience has taught you. Any opinion is welcome.
No, attractive people have a harder time, if anything, in finding lasting love. I have no idea why. No, good looks help a first impression, but that's all. If a person is truly hideously deformed, he never has a chance in society no matter how good he is on the inside. Yes, good looks, all things being equal, help you get a job. Personality and attitude are always more important, unless you want to be a model. It's hard to fathom, but people like Spencer Tracy and Charles Bronson, also Gerard Depardieu, also Richard Boone, were arguably ugly in their own way, but they all had sex appeal, based I think on their physical strength and self confidence. But I'm not sure. I don't know everything, it just seems that way.
It is sort of a "chicken or egg" kind of thing - of course confidence is key and being good-looking obvipusly helps you to build good confidence. People like being around good-looking people, so it is easier to socialise if you are good looking; even if you are the shy type of person, people will talk to you or at least seek to be around you. The most obvious and undeniable benefit is that the opposite sex will desire you. Possesing good looks will also get you compliments from all corners of society. Living under hese circumstances, the person blessed with attractiveness will look at life in more positive way and will also feel better with himself. It is then this confidence, gained from being beautiful, that earns him/her all the benefits. This is of course only generally speaking. Some less attractive people become very successful (eg the guys you mentioned) thanks to their confidence. But, as have been said, it is easier to build confidence if you are hot.
I'm glad you asked me. People think being really really ridiculously good looking means dumb, but you can have big smartness and be good looking at the same time.
Yes, I do think attractive people do have it easier in every aspect of life. It definitely makes it easier to get your foot in the door, but eventually it needs to be backed up with substance. Yes, looks really dictate how people feel about you as a person. I think appearances effect peoples opinions and outcomes of events. That's just the way it is. Yes, an attractive person does have a better chance of getting a job than an equally unattractive person. People like to look at good looking people, whether they realize it or not, and that has an impact on hiring.
This is true, too. People can compensate for appearance with confidence. It's like an energy that is sometimes palpable, and makes all the difference.
I have noticed that a certain segment of very attractive and agreeable women end up married to truly abusive men. Minimum-wage chains often like to hire atractive people, as they tend to attract more business, but the workers are not really compensated adequately for this ability to draw in customers, but instead have their youthful attractiveness exploited. IMO people used to being very attractive sometimes have difficulties as they age and their physical attractiveness fades, as they have a hrd time accepting that and sometimes resort to desperate measures to try to cling to this fading feature. IMO most less-attractive people do not realize how much attractiveness is actually due to attitude and the efforts the more attractive put into maintaining their appearance--including diet, exercise routines, hair and skin care, posture, and mental attitude and discipline..
Basis for discussion... answers. No. Yes. No. Don't understand the question. Attractive people have to face the reality that they will be objectified by some people. While that may help them sometimes it more often leads to broad misunderstanding. Few attractive people have perfect lives. The assumption that their lives are less troubled may lead others to either favor or disfavor the attractive person, without any real understanding of their lives. Attractiveness on a personal basis leads to other confusions because what value is an emotion based completely on attraction? What does the attracted person care about, the real you or your appearance? So... attraction is its own benefit, and causes as many problems as it solves.
I've gotten to know some people that were good looking, and if their personalities are a turn off, they started looking worse too, or at least not as captivating.
It's harder because it's a lot easier to attract other mates, and lose interest in the one you have. With great power comes great responsibility.
Have you noticed how politicians, especially presidents and Prime ministers, usually have large heads? Only Jimmy Carter had a smaller head than his opponent Gerald Ford, and then Carter was run out of the White House when he sought re-election, by the larger-headed Ronald Reagan. Obama had a smaller head than Mitt Romney, yet he won, so that's a second exception.
I have quite a large head. When I was a child it was enormous. Does this mean I will become president one day?
Yes, it does. I'll happily serve as your ambassador to Argentina. I love steaks and tango music and I speak elegant Spanish. "Pase la salsa, por favor."
Anyways, I am certainly not blessed with good looks (on the good ole scale, I am probably a 4), yet I have not really felt it has been hard for me to make people like me. Even when I used to have really low self-esteem, people seemed to enjoy my company. But, I have always been really good at acting as if I do not care when actually I do care (I'm very 'sprezzatura') and perhaps it is my nonchalance that has helped me out in this department.
Yes. Observe the average looking guys with good looking girlfriends. There's always a reason women like them.
To make the guy they actually like jelous. Not that it works, but women will think it works on men just because it works on them.
Idk about my face. I would say i look average. But i do fitness bodybuilding, win competitions and so on. On one side its definitly easier with girls. On other side its harder to find "the real one".
We have a beauty gene in our family. Not all of us got it, but the ones who did are stop-dead-in- your-tracks beautiful. From new born baby to death bed (literally), these beauties were remarked upon to their faces with each new person they encountered. Can you imagine a new shift of hospice nurses standing by the bedside of the dying saying, "doesn't she look pretty"? It happened. A newspaper reporter took a picture of a youngster and put it on the front page of the paper. It is a constant remark, a constant compliment, a constant spotlight. Here's my take: - I think beautiful people have it easier in 95% of the aspects in their lives. People are falling all over themselves to mate them. However, marriages are often not happy because the mind-altering haze of physical looks wears off slowly and the real stuff begins to surface. Others are constantly hitting on the beautiful spouse, further undermining the marriage. Another thing is that beautiful people tend to be narcissistic, and that brings a whole array of toxic behavior into their relationships. A thing I noticed is that people fall all over themselves to set things up for the beauty, and consequently the beauty never really feels the reality of actually making something happen on their own steam. - Do looks really dictate how people feel about you as a person? Maybe not in their deepest convictions, but the world is filled with people who are impressed by beauty and want it in their lives; whether it's the working life or the personal life. They feel that somehow it ups their own value to hang with the gods. - Beautiful people have a way of making everyone think they are most competent. If they are smart, they can really play this until they are at a pretty high paying level of employment. - Bogus? We have all been taught that beauty is only skin deep. That one shouldn't judge a book by the cover. That we should judge people by the content of their character. I would reply that it is true, and I try very hard to follow that wisdom. Once I dyed my hair very light blond, and men fell all over themselves to open doors for me (I loved it!). So I know from first hand experience that looks really do count.
