Your child says I'm gay. What do you do?

Discussion in 'Gay & Lesbian Rights' started by smileyface, Jul 31, 2011.

  1. Maquiscat

    Maquiscat Well-Known Member

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    You're over on DebatePolitics too aren't you? The worse part is that there is someone here with the exact same ID as her there, but it's not her.
     
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    Gay driving would simply indicate that the driver is gay...or festive, depending on which definition you're using. As noted, the difference doesn't usually do much more than note what sub group at least one participant belongs to.
     
  3. Polydectes

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    Yes I am. I don't think she posts here.
     
  4. Polydectes

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    No, sorry.
     
  5. Maquiscat

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    That's what made it confusing at first. I couldn't figure out why her posting style was so radically different at first.
     
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    Free will?

    Then why are Jesus's disciples referred to as "slaves"?
     
  7. Polydectes

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    Referred to as slaves by whom?
     
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    Really, it should read "If your child sa
    Really, it should read "If your child says he (or she) is gay." I can't imagine why a child of mine would call you gay. :p
     
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    Why would my gay kid feel a need to tell me he was gay? My other kids who not didn't feel a need to tell me they were heterosexual; I kinda figured it out when they brought their date by the house before the dance.
     
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    Depends on how old the child is. If he/she is younger than 18 then I would tell them to give it a few years. Most likely they will grow out of it. They are probably just trying to be trendy.
     
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    I guess times are different when I was a teenager and a boy came out as gay, he might as well have joined a monastery. Now it's trendy. It's strange how fast times change.
     
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    I haven’t read every post on this thread as some of them, such as the one immediately preceding mine, make me feel sick.
    So, if I’ve missed any mention of this that’s why. When the original poster used the term ‘child’ what age, if any, were they suggesting?
    This is an important issue as if a child of say 13 came to their parent and asserted they were gay I'd suggest to them most sensible thing you can say to is many young people go through as stage of early same sex attraction but that doesn’t necessarily Indicate a life long preference.

    Bigoted religious fundamentalists however are liable to unleash ‘re-programing by prayer’ in this situation forcing the young into dangerous pseudo-therapies often resulting in suicide. Tell a young teenager they’ve been possessed by Satan and what can you expect? Often the young so treated by their family leave home and become homeless. Even if they later on become opposite sex attracted they are so damaged by the experience they never recover.

    If the poster above imagines ‘tradition and culture’ can sensibly guide anyone through a genuine discovery they are homosexual their fundamentalist ideology is more than deluded, it’s dangerous and hateful and that’s before we even begin to question their interpretation of the particular version of the so called Word of God they imagine their branch of Christianity’s translation of scripture embodies.

    Then we have the all too common avoidance of the hypocrisy and perversion of child sex abuse too frequently practiced by the priesthood and we’re diving into a sewer of theologically induced mental illness most churches refuse to acknowledge. A mental illness too often induced by raising the young to worship as sadistic deity who tortured his own son ( whom trinitarian theology suggests is part himself) to redeem sins that God knowingly made possible.

    I get tired, in fact sickened of elucidating this nauseating scenario but fundamentalist Christians who suffer the delusion homosexuality is the work of Satan, rather than something their God created, need to be slapped in the face with the logical conclusion of accepting at face value their own fairy story.
     
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    Time you read up on Ancient Greece and a few anthopological texts examining the history of same sex relations.
     
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    What does that have to do with the 1990s?
     
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    Naturally.
     
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    Zero.
     
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    My post makes you feel sick, why exactly?
     
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    Your post was not sick at all, nor should it make any normal person think it is.

    Back when I was young, if you where considered gay as a male, even if you where not, the best thing you could do was dig a hole and bury yourself in it.

    Queer boys, as they where noted, even if too young understand why, most of the time where normal horney males, just more secure with other males, versus females, where chastised into the closet

    The idea sexuality with young males can be determined at 14 to as far to 20 years old is a total myth.
     
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    So you like the concept of sexual fluidity?
     
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    I don't think it really exists, at least with males.
     
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    If you ever end up with a long jail sentence you may discover something about males of our species that frightens the hell out of you.
     
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    I doubt it, when it comes to males there isn't much I haven't seen or done that would surprise me, nor less scare me.

    Males are what I call hypersexual, seeking sex well into their 70's, whereas women burn out in their mid 40's and many men as they age don't seem to care about the sex of the target they just want nail or be nailed.

    What I do find bizarre though are men who will state on the record that homosexuality is a perversion, but if presented with the opportunity to do such, will without thinking twice, back before I sold my contracting company I had a guy working for me who I had known since Junior High School and it was somewhat known that he was screwing around with another guy from the same school, the way it was confirmed for me was he and his boyfriend tried to talk me into joining them in having some naked fun, which I wasn't interested in doing.

    Fast forward a couple of decades to a Christmas party that him and his wife invited my wife and I to, somehow the subject of gay marriage came up and this guy went into a rather vile and disgusting tirade about how perverted it is for men to have sex with other men, I was going to make a comment about him and his boyfriends invite, but it was Christmas, there was a lot of family there, so I said nothing.

    Later in the evening we where out by the pool with no one else around and I asked him if he remembered the invite, I thought he was going to get sick and he literally begged me to not say anything about that around his wife, they where already having problems and he was convinced if she found about that, she would dump him.

    When it comes to males there is a truism that applies to way too many of them, and that is, they think with their little head, not the big one.
     
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    So a young man 14 to 22 doesn't know his sexuality yet?
     

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