A Society is a Society. An Aspie is a Society and a World him/herself. I am not Liberal. I am not Conservative.
In my opinion. 1) Most Humans are good -- only a small minority are Evil. 2) All Humans have character flaws. Humans are not angels. 3) Most Societies have values which are unethical.
I'm a reluctant member of society, I can't stand the pretense, barely tolerate the importance placed on wealth nor the little waste of time motions you have to go through with "emotionally draining and lots of talking but saying nothing" people. The gems of individuals we find as we go through life, makes it worthwhile
Will you forgive me if I ask how that works...?? Sorry if it's a foot in the mouth, I'm renowned for those. Are you referring to personality or mood changes... or you simply prefer your own company...like it seems the majority of people in this thread (ok three... like the other three people in this thread)
Please ask me anything -- I like talking about my condition. I like talking to people, but I like arguing. It is hard for me (and any Aspie!) to adjust my values and interests to those of Society. I can not completely agree with anyone. Thus I have no friends.
but you are quite funny, people like that... is it perhaps that your humour surfaces when you argue... the reason you like arguing? (not sure why I ask because you just told me you won't agree with me)
1) I was a class clown in High School. Perhaps, acting as a clown is many people's expression of Depression. 2) I do not know. Perhaps it helps me retain some individuality.
Do you want friends? Can you be friends with people who disagree with you? I occassionally attract a friend, which is unfortunate because Im a terrible one. I like helping ppl move heavy things or fix leaky pipes, but I detest 'hanging out' and I'm useless for emotional support, which seems to be what everyone is looking for these days.
you sound like the perfect friend (move heavy things and fix leaky pipes) I'm fine with the hanging out part (if it's strictly funny- no serous ****) it's the emotional support thing that gets me too... I prefer drama free existence, people who need a lot of emotional support have a lot of drama...+
what about those who just want something heavy moved or a leaky pipe fixed? They may offer a baked cake or food in return?
I'd rather trade for help letting my cat inside when Im working out of town (literally the only thing I can't do by myself). But food is acceptable
Cats... I'm more of a dog person, but have done petsitting cats and dogs... in fact I have a couple who keeps bringing their dog back to me because he gets stressed with other people.... guess that makes me a better petfriend typical...that's so sad
IME dogs make good companions but poor pets. They need a 'pack' or they lose purpose, and thus contentment. Which imo isnt functionally different than emotional dependence. I like other peoples dogs Cats are rarely good companions (though mine does seem to enjoy my company enough to follow me around when I walk to the convenience store...) but better pets.
you mean lose purpose like stretched out on the couch purpose... you may have a point. However her fluffiness makes up for that, the kids can barely leave the house for school without giving her belly rubs or ear scratches.... that's pretty good pet requirements right there. I've worked out her fluffiness is how these types of dogs have evolved to survive, she's so adorable you just want to take care of her... a bit like women do to men.... "oh you're so cute I just want to take you home and look after you"...."suckerrrrr"
My stepdaughters dog basically goes into a depressed/anxious state whenever he's left alone to his own devices. When she's trying to leave for somewhere, if he manages to sneak into the car, he growls/snaps if you try to get him out because he's do desperate to not be left alone. He eats everything thats edible and chews everything that isn't unless he's with someone. He's perfectly content to lay down and be still for hours if she's nearby, but can't do the same for 5 minutes when alone. I believe the technical term is 'separation anxiety.' Purely anecdotally, about half the dogs i've known in my life were like this. Never a cat though.
oh.. poor puppy. That's exactly the same with the Golden Retriever I look after when his owners go away, he used to be a guide dog so they bond very closely with humans.... they need company... and I work from home... that's why he's fine when he stays with me, I try not to leave him alone for long periods. Cats are more independent....
