Anyone here ever dealt with a person that seems perfectly normal until you have to request something from them? I'm dealing with a person who treats request like accusations. When I try to explain that the request isn't a demand or accusation they twist the explanation into being an accusation worse than the first. The request are usually mundane and would fall into normal expectations but are understandably inconvenient for the person. Then it blows up into a huge disagreement. Because even asking assumes that this person could be put out, which is an insult. Has anyone here ever dealt with someone like this? I can't just get away because its family. How do you deal with someone like this on a daily basis?
By adapting, once you realize a person's problem, such as requests, it is best to avoid making any requests from that person, unless they are in a position that you must deal with them in that capacity. Try avoiding those conflicting situations as far as it depends on you. It may not be entirely possible for you, depending on your exact situation, I am in a similar situation, and I try to avoid saying anything that sets this person off, I am sort of their current tenant, and making plans to remedy that. It is not healthy to continue with even Family if they cause undue stress or anxiety or conflicts.
I'm not sure if I'd call this narcissism, unless you just didn't mention other details, but this person sounds like they have a paranoid personality. I've dealt with people like this, and it always sucks. It may ultimately come down to a direct confrontation where parting ways or an understanding of irreconcilable differences will have to be acknowledged.
A person doing that is doing a power move, a control freak thing, to put you submissively on the defensive.
Low level. Narcissism is rooted in a negative self judgement. IOW narcissist create an image which is supposed to cover up what they think of themselves, the bigger and more grandiose the image is the deeper the judgement goes.
Not anyone who I was stuck with like your situation, fortunately! I don't see how that says that the person is narcissistic though. Sounds like a persecution complex.
This sounds less like narcissism to me and more like some one who wants to have their cake and eat it too. Combined with a healthy dose of selfishness and the ability to manipulate you. Once what seems a healthy request turns into an argument they've won. If this isn't a blood relative I would distance myself from this person and if they actually care for you they will ask and you can calmly tell them. Sounds like unneeded stress when there's so many nice people to interact with
