Why gay couples have higher rates of domestic violence

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  1. kazenatsu

    kazenatsu Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    Someone brought up that gay couples tend to have noticeably higher rates of domestic violence, so here are some thoughts about that, why that may be.

    Well what do you expect when you have two women fighting over relationship issues?

    And two men fighting in a domestic dispute can obviously get rough and there will be much less hesitation to physically fight.

    I think when there is a man and a woman, since men and women are sort of in different worlds, the fighting will get less violent. Women get into verbal arguments and get emotional while men are more physical. So a man is less likely to provoke a woman and a woman is less likely to provoke a man. There are certain gender-specific buttons that someone of the same gender will be more likely to push.
    There's also a big hesitation for most men to get physical with a woman because they will be accused of beating up a woman, and many women aren't going to try to fully take on a man who's obviously bigger and stronger than her. She's not going to push all the way, and the man is probably going to hold back because her weak attacks aren't putting him in too much mortal danger.
     
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    Do you have a source that shows this? Likely they have listed probable reasonings for the findings. The last large scale study done (that I can quickly find) was done prior to same sex marriage and the one prior to that was done when same sex relationships were criminalized in some areas of the nation — factors have changed quite significantly since then.
     
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    In my experience working with communities it's less common among gay men more common among straight couples and most common in lesbian couples.
     
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    kazenatsu Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    Is it your claim that you believe the existence of getting married as an option might decrease the rates of domestic violence for those couples?
     
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    Common sense would show that individuals burdened by exterior pressures (inability to have an outward relationship or face arrest is be a big one) would cause a heightened emotional state leading to potentially higher rates of both intimate and inward abuse.

    I love how you edited out my request for more information or even your original source.

    And you actually ask why people jump right over your posts… <that’s one of many reasons, dishonesty / not discussing in good faith>
     
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    kazenatsu Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    I don't have to address every point or question in your post.

    In fact, maybe you should assume that if I do not ever respond to a part of your post, I do not object to it.
     
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    cd8ed Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    You surely do not — but it will impact others view of if you are having a discussion in good faith or if you are just only wanting to discuss what you want while ignoring their points.

    That isn’t typically why people delete pieces of others posts.

    But like you said, you can do as you choose and others will respond as they also choose
     

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