So I tried asking out a girl...

If she doesn't say no and doesn't say yes but says maybe, she is keeping her options open. If she is not even saying maybe, give it up to her trying to be polite.

 

lmao

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Save what shred of dignity you have, and don't tell her that. Just let it be.

 

No, that would not be a smart move and besides no one should be put on the spot like that and she's not obligated to answer any questions, particularly since they've never had a relationship in the first place.

To show her a lot of attention, for months asking her to out w/him - then suddenly start ignoring her would tell her he's playing head games w/her. That would only work if she really was interested in him, which doesn't sound likely b/c she had been refusing his date offers for months now......

 

Yup, I've been there and that's such a disappointment - thinking I had a good platonic friendship w/a guy....then. But that's just the way men are wired, I guess.....

While being married, I knew a guy who's company I enjoyed a lot. He & current gf & spouse & I did a lot of socializing and he'd also come over to visit w/us and often he & I would end up in the kitchen playing games of cut-throat Scrabble while my other half was half dozing in front of the tv.... we had more fun over those wild Scrabble games. He had been in the Marine Corps, very intelligent, great conversationalist, good sense of humor, had integrity/character - all those great attributes. This friendship went on for 5 yrs.......

After my divorce one evening Tom came over to see how I was doing. As he was getting ready to leave he said words I never forget "I'd like to take you out wining, dining, dancing and romancing'......

Well.... after the initial surprise, what woman can refuse an offer like that? So for the next 15 yrs until his death, we wined, dined, danced and romanced.....a good friend turned out to be the love of my life and one thing that was so nice, I knew him - no ugly surprises.

You never know what life has in store for you........

 

You're 16?! Krane, date a bunch of girls! You don't have to be 'in love' w/them.... you don't even have to 'date' them, just get out and mingle w/kids your age and have fun - but stay out of trouble.

 

Here ya go,Krane - good advise here.......

 

Aw, you're going to make me cry now... but that's love. It's not easy, it hurts.

Nobody can say how it's going to go. Sometimes people who cling on get their way in the end, mostly it's just a big waste of your time though, except that you learn from it for the next time.

To answer your question, yes, I am female.

Sniff. He sounds as close to perfect as a man can be. You must miss him. It must be very difficult to lose someone when you are so happy. Last week, I was having lunch with 2 friends and we planned to take a surprise birthday cake to my other friend. Before we could, another friend called me and she was crying on the phone so I knew someone had died but thought it was her Dad as he's been very ill. It wasn't. It was the birthday girl's husband. What a shock. Nobody could speak. Great guy, great company, my best mate and dancing partner at all the parties and a really fit man. Of course that is what killed him, he came off his bike. They started dating when she was 15. She has never looked at another man. I don't know how she is going to live. My best friend was just on the phone and as she put it, this is one of very few women who continually mention the husband always in a good light because they get along so well and are so happy.

Should've married him, shouldn't I. I'd still be laughing now. He was asking for me on the friends reunited thing, but he's had that.

 

If it were me, I'd just stop asking her out but still be polite. Situations change and people change especially with younger folks. I think you might risk making an enemy of sorts by either pushing yourself on her (by continually asking her out) or by stating that you 'won't ask her out anymore.' She already knows you like her, now it is HER move. In the meantime, don't burn your bridges.

Hate is a pretty strong word. I wouldn't try to read anything more into it than she just doesn't want to go out with you right now. Like I said above, give it a rest, be polite and friendly. If it is meant to be it will happen. Good luck!!

 

Yes, he was one of the best men I'd known and one thing I loved about him was his quiet strength... and great w/my kids, worked hard, played hard, always had good communication b/t us, even if we got mad at each other, respectful to all - he had a lot of good qualities - but didn't take any crap from anyone. Not even me - lol.

Multiple Myloma, a terminal cancer got him - but he was in remission for all of those 2 yrs except for the last 3 months, so he still enjoyed his quality of life as much as he could and those 2 yrs prepared me to say good-bye......

It's when you have a loved one one day and they're gone the next that's such a brutal blow, like what your friend just went thru..... that's rough and so hard to get back on your feet and move on w/o them.

 

WTF?

Hummingbird -- and you are supposed to be a Christian woman?

Geez -- we Euros aren't that religious but: wtf? If you date a bunch of girls you are a cheater.

Nobody likes cheaters, not even cheaters.

No, no, no.

Worst advice ever.

 

What do you tell a girl who wants you if you don't want her?

 

Kane,

I'm European -- I'm not going to pretend to understand the American concept of "dating".

It is almost entirely foreign. I do not know what it entails. It is something typical of America ~ Americana; e.g. how to ask someone out on a date.

This is how it usually is done over here when you are 16 y.o.

- do you have mutual friends -- fix something up via that route then
- is there a place after school y'all hang out, e.g. a bench in a park, a bus or tram stop, a square, etc. Find out where she hangs out?
- does she live in your neighberhood?
- is she a member of the scouts (/guides?), etc. -- if she is, be sure to go to that scouts' next party or bar and pretend you didn't know she was a member
- does she visit, or is she active, in your local "youth house"? -- maybe she is a member of the Youth Council from your town?

Like I said -- I don't understand the American concept of dating. Over here you basically go out on dates if you are already a couple...

 

BTW -- I may not understand the American concept of dating, but I do know that telling her you are not going to ask her out anymore is,... well -- kind of lame.

If I were you, I wouldn't do that...

I think the easiest route "to meet up with her" -- so she can get to know you in an out-of-school setting -- is through mutual friends.

 

LOLOL! OMG, this is funny!

Ok, now I'll try to type what I really meant while I'm laughing....


I was just suggesting for Krane to get out and have fun w/friends and get to know other girls..... they're kids! 15, 16 yrs old....

If he meets a gal he just likes, but not 'in love' and takes her out for the evening, that doesn't mean he has to sleep w/her.

Does a 16 yr old have to make an immediate commitment to a girl just b/c he spent a couple of evenings w/her, watching a movie and eating popcorn and that's ALL?

So, if there's no 'in love', no sleeping together, no written in blood commitment to her, no talk about 'their future together' no discussion about what they're going to name their kids ..... and all that other emotional stuff.... where is the 'cheating'?

That's what I had meant.....

LOLOL!

 

Hahahahaha. That's awesome.

 

Sounds pretty universal to me.....

How did the couple get to be a couple? lol.....

 

Like the Marlboro Man says, "Never chase buses or women...you always get left behind".

Too many guys take a woman being nice as "signs". It is a sign to them of needing a woman too much, a turn off, and something they can pick up on from 10 miles away. Best to just work on yourself, be the life of every situation, and choose who you like of the women obviously interested in you. Just don't go the opposite route and turn into a dick around her. That will just seal the deal. Being able to move on without a grudge after disappointment is often a turn on in its own right to some. You could easily go from the predator to the prey. Play it cool.

 

That's reasonable.
Or you could throw a huge party at your place and invite her over.
Your call.

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Got girl problems ? The answer's at the end of your wrist.

 

"Well did she make you cry, make you break down, shatter your illusions of love?
Now tell me is it over now, do you know how to pickup the pieces and go on?" -- Fleetwood Mac - Gold Dust Woman

 

Sorry, but you already know all the answers. She is just your dream.

 

I agree with him, as our philosophy was "Men are like buses, there's always another one coming round the corner">>>>>

 

No, no, no ~ Americans made an entire ritual out of it. It doesn' make sense.

The concept of "asking someone out on a date" is entirely absent in most European countries, except for in primary school...

 

You need to see this movie. The money quote, from memory: "Oi'd rather wait fer 'im than 'ave you waitin' f' me."

But you're not the one she wants; and if she's woth her salt, you never will be as long as you want her the way you do.