Would you consider Sex Before Marriage is morally wrong?

Do you mean sex between a young boy and his preist, father, cleric or rabi? before he gets married. Or regular sex between a female and a male?

Would'nt both be having sex?

 

Before anyone buys a perume or cologne, they usually smell it and test it out...Rite?

Well the same applies to having sex before marriage.

You don't want something that will cost you a whole lotta money, and eventually dissapear.

Nor, do you want something that smells like crap, and may give you a rash.​

 

LOL,
Good one.

 

It would be interesting to know how many times you will be married in life with this as one of your priorities.

There are different forms of sex, lustful and loving, when you prioritize the lustful, you open yourself to disasterous shorterm relationships. You would be better served looking for a loving mate(which does not exclude fisical attraction, but does not judge based on sexual performance).

 

It is politically immoral.

 

You are kidding right? If I'd taken a step backwards I would have fallen over laughing. I cannot imagine anyone here not having sex before marriage and the notion of it being immoral is a joke. Marriage itself is in a steady decline with around half of couples never getting married and the other half mostly after having children. In my society it has about as much to say as owning a car when it comes to social problems.

 

Baby, you can drive my car, and maybe I'll love you!

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Marriage is the leading cause of all divorde and spouse abuse.

 

Thank God less than 10% of the people polled so far think premarital sex is wrong.

I didn't get married till I was 36....and if I would have had to wait till then I'd have probably killed myself.

 

Most likely, that 10% just needs some coaching to get it right.

 

Why not? There are some really good concepts and teachings in this 2,000 year old book! For example, Deuteronomy 5: 16-21 KJV --

Toss in a few more basic ideas (Deuteronomy 27: 16-26 NIV) --

Add in the mother lode of them all (Luke 6:31 KJV) --

As well as this one (Luke 6:37 KJV) --

And that gives us some basic moral concepts with which to live by - don't lie, don't steal, don't kill, don't screw around, don't lust after your neighbor's stuff, respect your parents, don't pass judgment on others, and remember to treat people like you'd like them to treat you.

I think this world would be a better place if more people tried to follow these simple ideas - don't you?

 

Having what you consider a 'marriage' doesn't make a relationship moral necessarily. A marriage is simply a vow of lifelong commitment that people take to enter into a union. A committed relationship, with a known promise of lifelong monogamy is just as 'moral' as any marriage, whether or not it's made in public or private, in a church or in a bed. Marriage is a useful tool to facilitate such a vow of commitment, but it's not actually what makes a relationship moral.

To that end, a relationship, even a sexual relationship could be moral, outside of marriage.

 

Ummm ... what if you're better at sex than making money?

 

Excellent post. I completely agree with every bit of it. Well said.

 

I knew I was not alone on this issue.

 

I don't see it as an issue if the couple is really into each other.
A one night screw in bathroom of a downtown club may be over the top in my opinion. Imagine meeting a chick who your into then falling in love with her then finding out shes been a slut for years. Talk about a turn off.
I think every guy likes having a slut around for a while... But not to marry.

 

I follow my religious faith in considering it to be immoral. I do NOT think it should be legally prohibited, however: immorality should not necessarily mean illegality.

But sexual activity should be restricted by personal morality and social custom, since it is necessary for the continuance of the society that children are born and raised in stable families.

Marriage is good method for achieving that. It ensures that people will only risk the procreation of children when they are contractually bound together as a corporate unit. Coupled with a cultural prohibition on non-procreative sexual activity, it ensures that numerous children will be born and that they will be born into established and contractually regulated relationships. If everyone followed these precepts, there would be extremely little accidental pregnancy, STDs, or custody battles.

Unfortunately, people in the modern age seem unable or unwilling to follow these admittedly rigorous standards. They prefer to "have fun." This is one of the chief reasons that the Western world has entered a demographic winter. "Free love" sexual practices are at an inherent disadvantage compared to more restrictive practices in terms of bearing and raising a large, stable, and healthy child population.

Thus, it is likely Western populations will be outbred by cultural groups with a more "traditional" sexual ethic and/or that more socially "progressive" and permissive Westerners will be outbred by conservatives.

 

Well, if it's a legal contract of lifelong commitment and monogamy, that itself may be defined as marriage broadly speaking. There is such a thing as common law marriage.

It's not a sacramental marriage, of course. I believe in the spiritual value of marriage as a sacrament for religious reasons. But you can have a contractual marriage without it being a sacramental marriage.

As for "civil" marriage, I don't think the state should be involved in licensing marriages at all.

 

It is a truly selfless person that puts their ideals of freedom and Liberty above their own specific policy opinions. Clearly, you are able to reconcile your religious beliefs with your political beliefs, in that you don't force your religion on me. I thank you for that. Great post.

 

Sex gets old after a while, money never gets old. Think about it, to the young, sex is a big deal, but when life gets tough, sex is not going to pay the bills.

 

We have Viagra these days.

 

Sex gets old if you don't keep it fresh. Money is just money, unless you have a fixation on it.

I find that attitude sad.

 

What if it's just a lifelong commitment and monogamy,no contract ?

What does that actual contract (paper) have to do with marriage ?

Is that even in any religion ?

 

Then it's not binding. Also, contracts define such matters as property sharing, child custody, and inheritance rights. It's very worthwhile to have these matters squared away before you go having babies.

I think if you have a man and a woman entering a contractually binding relationship, in which they act as one corporate legal unit for many purposes, for the bearing and raising of their children, that can be defined as a marriage in all but name.

Well, Christianity traditionally did not recognize divorce, thus acknowledging marriage as a binding agreement.

 

Legally Binding no .. But I agree it is worthwhile and see the value as you say.

When you say contractually,I take that to mean legally binding. Can't people just say their wedding vows between each other (no paper) and tell people they are married without lying ?

True but I don't recall marriage with a legally binding contract as a biblical concept either.. (?)