Does anyone exist who is not damaged....?

I swear to god, every girlfriend I have ever had has talked to me about her issues and how she does not want to hurt me. I am single once again today because of the same reason. Not by my choosing...

Is there anyone who is not damaged? I am of the mind that we all have issues. Every one of us. I have (*)(*)(*)(*)ing issues, and quite a few at that.

But why allow those issues to control your actions? Why push people away?

Who doesn't have issues?

 

Sounds like you attract women with issues. the thing is, until they have resolved the issues, they aren't going to be a good partner to anyone.

 

All women are damaged.

I once went on a date with a woman, and she said "Before we go any farther, there's something you should know: I was once convicted of smuggling $50,000 worth of illegal drugs in a body cavity. I need to know right now if this is a problem for you."

I said: "As long as it wasn't pot, no problem."

 

Jesus christ dude. lol

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Maybe I do. But what the (*)(*)(*)(*). What women don't have issues?

 

I know, right!? I mean, $50k worth of pot is the size of a damn ottoman. I don't wanna be with a woman who can conceal an acre of Mexico in her vagina. Really.

 

It's a paradox, Wolv.

The "sane" girls...the "normal" girls....will simply go crazy on you later. They're the ones who'll f*** your brother.....or your sister...at a family picnic. Who "out of the blue" will set the bed on fire or drain your joint bank account and run off to live with a Nova Scotian lobsterfisherman she met online.

The ones who are "crazy"...are usually much easier to deal with or predict. The ones who scream at you for "Not understanding ANYTHING GODDDAMITT!!!!!" ...when she's drunk. But you know it's coming. Or who hate their mother...and tell you over and over and over and over....and if you try to calm her down say "Oh, yeah...she LOVES you...so you're taking her side."

They won't just wake up one morning and go Lorena Bobbitt on you....it's the "quiet ones" who do that.

Remember what Capt. Jack Sparrow said - Me? I'm dishonest, and a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest. Honestly. It's the honest ones you want to watch out for, because you can never predict when they're going to do something incredibly... stupid.

 

I once had this woman chasing after me who wouldn't leave me alone. At first it didn't start off to bad but she started calling and texting constantly, it just became very annoying very fast. Well it turned out she had a sister who had done pretty much the same thing with my dad and trying to get with him. If we had married those women then we could have been frothers.

 

Maybe you should. It would be a handy place to carry your luggage on a road trip.
Enjoy!

 

It was back in the day, but now that they charge extra to check a bag when flying, I wish I'd have given her a chance.

 

I sure don't have any answers to that. But I've noticed over the years that for whatever reasons, a lot of people are walking around with parental issues that seem to cripple them for normal relationships and normal lives. I'm not saying I'm perfect, nor were my parents, but for whatever reason, I was raised in such a way that I didn't leave home with all kinds of unresolved issues that have it's origins with parents (or the lack thereof). Because of that, I've been slow to empathize with people who have multiple issues wrapped up with their parents. My feeling has been, "Well you're an adult now, get over it." but apparently it's not that easy. I'm glad that I don't have a trunkful of unresolved issues that are taken out on friends and family.

 

While I understand that people have issues, I wonder if people just don't use them as a crutch.

If you admit to an issue, you recognize it, and you can take care of it.

 

Dude, you have to get rid of all those guns you have; most women hate being around men with guns.

 

Actually, the last few girlfriends have enjoyed shooting.

My interest in music and firearms have been in practice before my interest in any woman, if she doesn't like the time or money spent on either, she can find the door.

 

That sir, is ridiculous.

 

Ok fair enough.

 

You sir, obviously do not know the women I know.

 

You should get out and about more.

 

Clearly.

Women who have no interest in firearms themselves? A dime a dozen. But women not wanting to be around guys because they have guns? Much rarer.

 

Some women - and men - will use their emotional problems as a crutch, w/no interest in getting help b/c it works for them and others aren't aware of what they're doing and gently need to be told. When these people go for the help they need, they also need support from family/friends........

If you meet a gal you really care about and she has baggage from her past, try to help her, be there for her..... you may be grateful you did, but then m/b not.... send her to Dr. Phil. Life's a gamble.......

Earlier I walked over to the store and bumped into a neighbor and we walked home together. This gal is in her early 50's and started talking again, even crying about her mother, whom she had never had a good relationship with.... a cold, distance mother. Again, I tried to tell her that there's just some things you have to let go of b/c it will never, ever change......she won't listen.

It's really sad that a woman in her 50's is still hurting and crying for the mother she has never had and refuses to accept the fact that it's her mother's problem - not hers - and to let it go........

Talk about having issues that she dumps on others and it sucks the joy out of them spending time w/her......

 

Take a lesson from Captain Kirk

 

Eh, I get tired of being Dr. Phil though. I have cut ties with friends who were needy/always unloading bull(*)(*)(*)(*) on me. I texted one guy, asked how life was, and goes on a spill about how he is so alone blah blah blah.

Its just like, you have women ask you out all the time, and you ignore them because you are fixated on someone who has no interest in you. Get over it, (*)(*)(*)(*), and move on.

Its a crutch when someone is aware of a problem, recognizes it, and continues to act it out.

 

I know what you mean about people who suck the joy out of visiting w/them. You ask them how's life and you get a long melodrama story of bad luck and no one cares about them, etc and by the time they're thru, you're wishing you were somewhere else..... those negative people I try to avoid like the plague.... like the neighbor I had mentioned earlier. I rarely talk to her.......

Just saying if you meet a gal you think you can get serious about and she has issues, try to help her. If she doesn't try, tell her why you're moving on. Maybe that'll wake her up.......

I've met people who seem to thrive on self-pity and drama - I can't handle that and I'm gone........

 

This may be true, and someone has issues, then what are you going to do to solve it?

Nothing, thats it.

 

I think some just aren't aware of how they come across and they need to have it explained to them, gently, but firmly. Then it's up to them to use that constructive criticism and do something about it, if they want to keep friends and have good, healthy relationships......

But there are some..... forget it and that's what I did.