Does anyone exist who is not damaged....?

First, let's define terms. I think that when people mean soul mates, they mean there is one person that God, destiny, the stars, or whatever, that you are meant to be with.

I don't think that's true, or I've seen no evidence of it. There are probably lots of people that you are compatible with and could be attracted to. Odds are you just won't meet very many of them in your life time. But I don't think destiny picks out one individual that you are perfect for.

 

Yeh, uh-huh, right. Aren't we hot (*)(*)(*)(*).

Are you gonna take this view next week when it's YOU that's just caught your woman in bed with the milkman, (the pool boy, pizza boy, her BFF and a giraffe)?

Just because one woman's turned you down doesn't mean you're unattractive. Often it just means she is.

And that's probably a good thing. I think we waste far too much time and effort over what is, basically, no more than the physical process of reproduction

I can see that now. "Honey, let's discuss values." "Of course dear, just a minute and I'll get my magic cloak which makes it impossible for me to lie so you can trust what I say"

Remember the saying of the Internet Sage. "All women are Filthy Lying Whores and all men would be if someone would pay them"

And I've always stuck unswervingly to my unshakable commitment to be flexible.

While admiring Shackleton greatly I've always wondered what ELSE could he do? The man's great virtue and major talent was survival and there's a lesson for us all there. He placed himself in a position where just existing was extraordinary, and accomplished much more than he had set out to while he failed utterly in the original goal. Shackleton's book says it better. It is called "Endurance" not "persistence" or even "enterprise"

Or Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy, not when seen as real things rather than sweet stories, no.

 

I've known senior couples who had been married for over 50 yrs and still loved each other, had always been loyal and committed to each other..... but then, waaaay back then when they were young, 'love', 'loyalty, commitment' had a different meaning and people took it seriously..... whereas now, not really.

Yeah, I do believe that some couples are meant to be together. My guy of 15 yrs, then cancer got him, was right for me and I know he felt the same way about me. We were very compatible, rarely argued. One thing we had going for us was we knew each other for 5 yrs, so starting out as friends, I think, really helps. You know what you're getting.......

One thing w/Tom & I was we had a solid comfort and contentment zone w/each other. We enjoyed being together - that and good communication is the foundation for a loving and lasting relationship..... soul mates, if you will.

 

If I had a nickel for every woman that found me unattractive, eventually I would have enough money that women would find me attractive.

Thank you.

Elvis has left the building.