My Father

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  1. Moi621

    Moi621 Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    I was the dumb, weakling, second son to my father.
    I remember well the first dinner table debate, "I Won". :woot:


    As best as I understand he spent his bon vivant years
    in Paris as a visa over stay :rolleyes: so never left France.

    On some cafe patio too nearby was "The Aga Khan"
    who could drink wine because it became water upon touching his holy lips.
    Too loud my father said he would prefer water become wine
    and got the full "eye ball treatment".

    In 1935 a distant cousin found him convinced him to get out of Europe
    because it will become especially unhealthy to Jews and almost like an
    "operation paper clip", got his visa to :flagus: approved from the Embassy in Paris.
    The other twist was the WASPy interviewer was impressed with his relationship
    to Morris Cohen, who I guess was like a Professor Kingsfield (Paper Chase) at New York City University.

    One of the "closest" times I remember was when I had this little 2 chicken egg incubator.
    As one lived to peck its' way out of its' shell - he watched for a time as I was hypnotized for hours.
    He really was hypnotized for the moment as I am more naturally.

    As an "Engineer" he disliked biology as a Science Biology is was too "mushy".
    Until he needed more understanding of his efforts in communication systems and the two successful Viking Landers on Mars while so many subsequent efforts failed
    His last Biology was in the ole USSR where he believed more virile men had sons.
    And he had 2. Makes sense.
    It took hours of deprogramming and reprogramming to X and Y chromosomes, etc.
    I will admit to my observation that women who are like the only female among male siblings are more likely to have sons. And those with only sisters, less likely.
    Likewise my sister in law's MS.and families with neurological . . her aunt had it. Maybe he was right.
    My mother had 2 brothers. ;) And was the first Jewish woman my father dated because he was an assimilationist.


    In his aerospace years working with ex NAZIS he would ask any critic
    what they did in the Joe McCarthy years!
    My father got early AM phone calls from Roy Cohn and hung up on him.



    That's mine for now, anyone else?



    Moi :oldman:



    No Canada-1.jpg
    Across an immense, unguarded, ethereal border, Canadians, cool and unsympathetic,
    regard our America with envious eyes and slowly and surely draw their plans against us.
     
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  2. crank

    crank Well-Known Member

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    My father is an 84 year old fast talker and pragmatist intellectual. He's basically an ancient Ben Shapiro.

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    Thought Criminal Well-Known Member Donor

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    My dad was a poor, uneducated man who never made anything of himself.

    He taught me honor, self-respect, and a high level of personal ethics.
     
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    My Dad was a former DA , a law professor and a pro tempore judge during the summer. He was a cross between Thomas Aquinus and Prof. Kingsfield except he had a great sense of humor and an empathetic nature. He also had the good fortune to meet the perfect counter-balance in his wife.

    I got very very lucky in the parent dept.
     
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    My Dad worked hard almost 95% of his waking life.
    Dairy farming is a 24/7 job, not for wussies or whiners.
    And, my Dad rarely complained even when he had to slog his way to the milk parlor in his 70's at 3am every morning.
    He wasn't a chatty man.
    He wasn't an effusive man.
    He was a man who had old-school values to attend to his herd and family with honor, honesty, and decency.

    Once, when we had an "anti-gay" measure on the ballot -- popular in the early 90's -- my younger brother asked him about it 'cuz it was my bro's first time at the polls. My Dad told my bro that he felt if the measure passed "people would get hurt." May seem a cast off anecdote, but I remember thinking how wise my Dad was without a bunch of hooey, flowery lingo or argument. He just knew right from wrong.

    Man, I miss that.
     
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    btthegreat Well-Known Member

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    A man of few words, but if you pick 'em right, you don't need more!
     
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    Lee S Moderator Staff Member Past Donor

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    My father was the first person in our family history to go to college. He had what some describe as an exagerated sense of justice. He quit a teaching job because the college didn't hire African Americans. He was an avid civil rights advocate and marched in some of the largest civil rights marches. He would come home with dog bites, cuts and bruises from participating in the marches. There was a famous news shot of my dad getting blown across a street in Alabama by a water cannon. Our house and car were vandalized several times with things like ****** lover. My dad wouldn't accept help from the neighbors to paint over the vandalism because he wanted everyone to see it for what it was.

    He helped cook meals, clean the house and change diapers in a time when that just wasn't the norm. He was a great dad.

    My father was working as a radar propogation scientist for the government when a radiation dose back-fed through wave guide and he and over 100 other scientist were killed by the radiation. I was seven years old at the time. I wish I knew him better.
     
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    my daddy was a rich free market capitalist, and i inherited a boat load of money.

    i plan on honoring him by defeating others in ethical free market competition, similar to how President Trump has.
     
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    I think he made a great deal of himself.
     
  10. Moi621

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    More from a Science thread

    Born in Czarist Russia, his last biology class was in Russia
    (He believed more virile men had sons. And he had two)
    Now as a communications engineer (you only have so much
    electricity to broadcast what data, engineering) he never
    had to deal with biology in his career nor engineering
    education in Germany (circa 1923) then France (1925 + +) .
    It took a hard day to update him on chromosomes,
    common "threads" of life and so messy compared to
    electronics engineering.

    My best friend and I share stories about having an
    engineer as a father. Although his was Civil Engineering
    the fathering brain apparently worked similarly.
    I thought my friend how to get into Medical School as
    Mexican - American.
    He said, "But, I don't speak Spanish".
    I said, "The Liberals don't care."
    Today he does speak Spanish and serves the poorest!

    C'est la vie.


    Share Your Father here.


    Maybe you got loving & closeness mine didn't.

    Moi :oldman:
     
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    My dad would eat anything which made keeping mom healthy a top priority for the rest of us growing up as she didn't think anything that won't kill you is a proper meal.
     
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    My Dad taught us many things.
    “ Someone may be an idiot but you don’t have to tell him that you know this”.
    “call no man sir”.
    He taught me how to drive without the hysterics associated with driving with Mum. He had a dry sense of humour. He read the Bible from cover to cover because it was a wedding present and he felt obliged to read it.
     
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    My sex talk with my dad came about as result of a discussion about electricity.

    Dad: The plug is called the male connector and the receptacle is called the female connector.
    [Long Pause]
    Dad: Do you know why?
    Me: Yes
    Dad: Okay.
     
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    That's funny and it sure took me back. My dad and I were out hunting pheasants one day and my dad said "Keep it in your pants till you're married". That was it. Right off the bat, reading between the lines, that told me I must have been a bastard or he wouldn't have said that. It wasn't till many years later, upon my mother's death, I found their marriage license and realized I wasn't.
     
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    Many moons ago I attended a stag party for a friend. This was in the early days of VCRs; in fact so much so that we had to rent one! And of course we had bunch of porn movies for the evening. One of the movies was very old and was filmed in black and white. I would guess it was made in about the early 1960s. One of men in the film walked out and I saw someone who appeared to be my father! I gasped and stared in disbelief. He was young, appeared to be about the right age, and looked identical to old photos of my father. I was probably silently freaking out for about five minutes. It looked just like him. Finally there was a direct face shot and I could see it wasn't him.

    Whew!!!!

    My father had been stationed in Japan while in the Air Force and before he met my mother. He had a Mama-san over there. He told me about that about the time I hit my twenties but mom never knew. :D

    He went over to her parents house for dinner one night. But the old man broke out the sake and drank my dad under the table. When he got up to leave, he fell through one of their walls [which were made out of paper]. And he was never invited back. LOL!

    Back then the serviceman often traveled by rickshaw - human powered. They would often take the rider down a back alley, flip the thing over backwards, and then thieves lying in wait would mug you and take your money and valuables. That was pulled on my father once when he first got there.

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    While in the military but here in the States, he and some buddies had gone out to a bar for a night of drinking and billiards. Somehow they ended up in a fight and were badly outnumbered. They were getting their butts whipped badly. So dad ran out to his Lincoln, fired it up, and drove it through the wall of the bar. His buddies jumped in and they took off!

    Dad was always accusing me of doing things I never would have done. Years later I realized that his expectations were based on his own youth. I wouldn't have done the things he suspected but he would have when he was young!
     
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    Some people here will appreciate this: My dad worked for Pappy Boyington - a WWII ace pilot who was the subject of a TV Series called Baa Baa Black Sheep.

    Dad helped to develop the adhesives used in the Apollo Space Program. To a large degree, those rockets were glued together. He used to bring home samples from work. They were insanely strong. When I was really young, I remember experimenting with a tube he left on the workbench. I glued his ladder shut. He had to throw it away.
     
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    My dad happened to be fishing on a pier when he looked up and saw this

     
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