What does it mean to truly love someone?

I can understand the gist of what you are saying.

Just as being single is better than being in a bad marriage.

And being alone does not mean being lonely.

One case tho was of someone who sounded like you:

Anthony Hopkins was interviewed years ago and said "That he enjoyed his own company" in regards to being alone.

But several years later, he met & married the 'love of his life' and regretted that previous mindset & period of his life, going from serious minded & morose to light spirited & happy!

 

I don't think I'm going to regret it.

 

Wga.....I am not trapped.

I chose to be here.

And the thing is I can leave anytime.

AA

 

People can get used to being alone and I enjoy being alone as well.

But loneliness is a killer and no matter what a person say's.....they need someone else.

AA

 

Will you have 'some one' at the end of your life to be there..kids, a close friend, if not a partner?

 

I don't get loneliness like you guys.

And yes I know what it is. I got it once in college. And I went on a date with someone. They had a good time, but I didn't want to see them again.

Fortunately the loneliness was just a phase, a weird fluke, and I don't get that way anymore.

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Are you leaving the site?

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No, I'll die alone and forgotten.

 

It wasnt uncommon in the old west for mountain men to live alone, but usually a short life as they had no help shud they get injured.

And there are many older ppl that prefer animals & their company over ppl! Bridgette Bardot is one last I heard.

Do you have animal company?

 

I have animals but not by choice.

Animals are a lot of work and I've come to the conclusion that I don't want to have pets either.

I mostly leave the chore of taking care of them to other people.

 

OK....you have me worried.

No I am not leaving the site.

I meant I chose to be in the BOX you so described.

AA

 

I dont want to judge you but you seem too self-centered in your life? How would you answer that opinion?

 

I'm not selfish, and I'm not self-centered. I simply want to close my existing relationships as they happen and not open new ones.

The world's complicated enough. Why add to it???

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Well what would you do in my shoes, where you don't have to be a slave to your emotions, chemicals, love levels all of it gone... Could you accept the new existence?

 

Just because your reponses sound like everything is a hassle for you..nothing seems to bring you any joy?

 

No....I could not.

Listen.....you may or may not believe me but you have so cut yourself off from the possibility of a relationship that your mental state is now governing your physical state.

And this is not healthy neither mentally or physically.

It WILL shorten your life span.

Wga.....you are a good guy and a good friend.

There is bound to be someone out there who see's in you what I see.

AA

 

So no feelings at all or just no loneliness?

 

Love is not sharing someone's joys,
It's sharing someone's pain.
It's easy sharing summers joys,
Not so the winters rain.

Love is not sharing someone's gain,
It's sharing someone's cross.
It's easy sharing in their joy,
Not so in grievous loss.

Love is not sharing someone's life,
But sharing yours with theirs.
It's easy sharing joys you have,
Not so to take their fears.

In love we match our positives
To ease each others fears.
It's easier then to share our lives
And take us down the years.

Love is the greatest gift of all
Love knows not fear of pain.
So come what may, Whate'er befall
Let only Love remain.

 

I've got feelings.

 

One can shut down themseves 'emotionally'...been there/done that during my life!

 

I think one of the most important feelings in life is that of having 'purpose.'

W/o purpose one just exists!

Might look for a charity or good cause to get involved in to give you a sense of purpose

 

Can you not see that I was in a way agreeing with you? I believe a persons first love is the strongest, simply because it's the first time for them, they have never experienced the feeling before. In most cases, like you said, he/she is young, because first love usually happens at a young age. Thus it can be concluded both ways. I mean the more relationships one has, the harder it is to fall in love, no matter the age. The original (first) is what was meant.

 

I agree for the most part.

My 1st love and steady gf was when I was 11 yo and somehow 'snagged' the prettiest girl in the class.

Our relationship included lots of kissing, hugging, and hand holding where we both couldnt bear to be apart.

Very naive and non-sexual..just strong bonding! Many, many years later still have fond memories of that relationship even after 7-8 other older & adult 'love' relationships!

 

The first kiss usually will never be forgotten, along with the feeling of love. Even entire days can be remembered. Mine was age 13, and we got pregnant at 16 in the snow. We married when I was 16 and she was 17, divorced at 19 so together for 6 years. Our daughter is 20 this august 3. I'm only 36. It's kind of crazy because she also was the prettiest girl in school, and the leader of the cheerleading squad, I still remember that skirt/outfit.

 

Why is it ALL men are suckers for bouncy cheerleaders in short, pleated skirts?!!

Must be the innocent look mixed in with sexy, somewhat hidden leaving to the imagination, youthful femininity?!

 

BTW, where are all the romantic 'female' posters?!!!

 

I'm sure my girls were hurt when they were punished and not given everything they wanted. My duty as a father is not to spoil and be their friend, it is to prepare them to be good independent members in society. Love is secondary and is usually proven by tough caring.

My wife gets hurt when I tell her no on many wants she has, but I care that she have her needs met if I'm die or we get too old to create income. Hurt is subjective and love is subjective.

 

The day we quit looking, is the day we die.