How a husband can enjoy sex that is grudgingly given by his wife

Oh , look! Amy's most recent attempt to go off topic to hijack a thread......



I am not speaking on anyone's behalf as you do constantly.....YOU insist you speak for all Americans and all women but falsely accuse me of speaking for others????

I don't know what your game is but I told you I'm not interested....if you're so obsessed with the sex of the poster maybe a dating site would be more up your alley....

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I just did.


Did YOU have anything to say???

 

A husband getting it from his begrudged wife is the subject. That has nothing to do with monogamy?
Then what does the subject have to do with??

 

It isn't rape if she accepts, which is clearly stated in the article. You changed that to rape because she just doesn't enjoy it anymore.

 

Shocking. Another post full of speculation about subject matter the poster is ignorant of.
Why post on the topic? What is your interest?

 

Yeah, I can say plenty about sex in marriage after 20 years married, specifically about a wife's point of view because I am one. I can tell you what married women I know say about sex because I talk to my friends about it. Ask away. I am happy to share my observations and experience regarding the topic.
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Why do you think those women left with him? What did your wife withhold sex hoping to gain?

 

For women sex is typically emotional or a beneficial asset. Very seldom an instrument of physical pleasure. If your lady benefits absolutely no gain from boinking you and obviously doesn't care for you, you must be good. Which is almost never.

 

Are you saying women don't have orgasms?

 

While I'm tuning into this thread late, and having read various posts (my laughter startled several in nearby offices), is this what some take as being 'good Christians"? To either require, or begrudgingly provide, sex with an unwilling partner, because the Bible says so?

I'll quietly go back to my novel de jour then.

 

Not at all. But it is my experience very few men know how to make that happen and women are very skilled at faking them.

 

Where does the Bible say so?

 

In the OP?

 

I learned it in pre-marital counseling done by the Catholic Church. We were required to have three or four meetings with the priest, and a engaged retreat weekend.

 

I find that as being closer to ownership than a marriage.

But people make great problems out of sex, as they do with other pursuits of gratification. At the end of the day, it's not so much about sex specifically as it is about getting what one wants. I, me, mine.

Far too many people see their spouse as sexual objects, almost like a love doll. If your spouse doesn't want to do the old in and out, there are problems with the relationship, and not just on the sexual level But then again, how does anyone have a real relationship with selfish, self centered individuals? These kinds of people never really have a genuine relationship.

While sex is important, it is only a small part of a relationship. When it becomes the most important thing, then you got trouble. Anyways there has to be something there much more than just sex, for if you live long enough, there will come a time when the sex is no longer that important, but companionship, love, sharing takes precedence.

Most people have an aberrant view of sex these days, IMO. It resembles porn, and is highly materialistic, and perhaps the height of selfish behavior. But when a society is sick, it becomes sick in all aspects, especially when it comes to sex.

 

In your words. I'm intrested in some original thought.

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What did you learn there?

 

So YOU speak for all women?! NO, you definitely don't if you think sex for all women is all emotion or a bargaining chip.

Sorry you never felt lust or got physical pleasure from sex but lots of women do......What century are you living in??

 

Are you married? Ever been? If so, how long?

 

I am a 39 year old woman who has had some sex, been married 20 years, and has talked with many girlfriends about sex over the years. That experience is from where my comments stem. From what female sex experience do your comments come?

 

A bunch of different thing related to relationships. One was that sex was to be enjoyed, and it was part of God's plan to keep couples together.

This is the organization that conducted the retreat:
http://www.engagedencounter.org/

 

Good to see you agree with me that YOU don't speak for ALL women.........being married for 20 years gave you a lot of experience with mEn ??? Really?!

It is UNnatural for any human not to feel lust or a sex drive....you have missed a lot if you only think women have sex for the "emotion" of it all or to get something...

I feel sorry for your daughters....I hope THEY don't continue to live in the 19th century....

 

From where does your knowledge of women and sex come from?