How a husband can enjoy sex that is grudgingly given by his wife

Curiosity here, what would the end intention be? Political Forum Dating, that is?

 

I am well aware of the physiological reactions of a woman who orgasms.

The point is for a man to KNOW HOW to get her to this point ans just physical stimulation of various kinds is NOT the true key.

It's important for a man to get a good understanding of a woman's want's and desires and women tend to want a man to figure out on his own what a woman wants as asking a woman is the same as asking a woman what's wrong or asking her what he can do to make things better.

If a guy does that a woman will usually say...."I don't want you to ask me what I need....I want you to KNOW what I need.

Unreasonable for some guy's....a huge advantage for other guy's who know.

And one other thing.....a woman doesn't have to do kegal exercises if she is with me.

She would be better off learning how to adjust to the painful stretching involved.

AboveAlpha

 

What have you asked me in our discourse? Nothing at all. I, on the other hand asked you many questions.
Neither gender tends to ask much or instruct much in my experience. That openness and candor is rare. It typically isn't comfortable to say, hey, will you do it this way instead? Or hey, I'm going to try 3 techniques, tell me which you prefer or how I can do it better...
Put a Hitachi Magic wand on a girl's clit, low setting, hold it fairly steady and she will have an orgasm. No foreplay, romance, or penetration is necessary. A jacuzzi jet works just as good.

 

Sure...and a guy can wack his noodle as well....big deal.

I am talking about a sexual experience between two people that will be remembered for many years to come.

It's all about the mental aspect of sex.

It's all about finding out what EXACTLY is a frame of mind that a guy can place a girl in that will make her wet with desire and reflexive with the slightest touch.....and orgasm at just a thought of doing certain things.

THAT....is what it's all about.

Everything else is bad sex...or at the best....good imagination.

AboveAlpha

 

Because chicks get weird over that kinda stuff.

 

Sex for physical and emotional satisfaction are very different in my experience. Do you think men feel similarly?

 

My contention all along has been that sex for men and women is different. Would you agree?

 

Well...it depends upon the man.

There are some men who feel they have missed out on a wide variety of sexual experiences and unfortunately for them they have absolutely no clue how to properly explain or express this to their sexual partner.

Men who need desperately the emotional satisfaction of sex might tend to be over needy or perhaps be involved in a loveless relationship.

I don't fit into any of this.

I am interested in the type of knee shaking and mind blowing sex that can only be achieved by understanding a deep need in a sexual partner....then exploit that need but not detrimentally but beneficially for both people...or 3.

AboveAlpha

 

Of course. This is true for most mammals.

 

In some cases especially when one of the two can't get a hold of the other because their message box is too full. LOL!!

AboveAlpha

 

To be able to talk about sex with strangers ....??? I don't know, you're the expert, you tell me....

 

Thank you for responding.

 

I cam here hoping to find some candor and varying perspectives on lots of subject matter.
I didn't come to argue, convince, mock, or belittle. I'm here hoping for some insight into places I've never been, cultures I am unfamiliar with, viewpoints I haven't contemplated, life experiences I have never known. I am so curious about so many things...

 

Because typically we are emotionally invested in sex. Which men exploit. You wanted to hit it with those chicks and complicated your life, lied, and invested yourself in efforts necessary to maintain having sex with them all.
And don't think I am slamming on you, women exploit men, too. I just find most people reluxtant to honestly talk about any of it.

 

"""we are emotionally invested in sex"""......who are you speaking for?

Some women are quite capable of having sex for fun with no emotional investment or involvement and some men get VERY emotional when a woman they consider theirs is having it off with someone else....

Humans are human and each one is different....

 

As far as this behavior goes as a general marital pattern, I'd advise any couple to set clear expectations and boundaries and then follow through on them.

With regards to any particular situation that falls under this broader pattern, there are too many variables to make any credible suggestions without knowing all the details that are unique between any set of partners.

In my personal opinion, no man (or woman) should tolerate a situation wherein your partner is essentially a masturbatory tool. If someone wants emotionless sex without any mental connection they would have a much better time with a fling. A self-respecting person demands that they be desired by their partner, not through creed but through deed. If you take care of your business outside of the bedroom and you are not rewarded inside of it, go find someone worthy of your time.

 

Theirs? Can u explain?

 

Yes, a man may consider a woman theirs...

NOW, instead of your usual evasive avoidance of answering questions try again:"""we are emotionally invested in sex"""......who are you speaking for? You admonished me to speak only for myself, which I do......who are you speaking for?

 

Women, as a whole have a higher percentage of body fat. That isn't always so when comparing one male individual to another female individual, but to say women have a higher percentage of body fat than men is accurate.
There are several reasons why that is...
I am the kind of person who is curious about the differences, who wants to discuss them and exceptions to them, the benefits, the consequences, the effects...

 

I'm a girl. I've had a lot of girlfriends. It is my impression and experience women typically link sex and emotion. Women don't keep impersonal sex business like pornography, strip clubs, and prostitution bankrolling. We keep Hallmark cards, romance novels, and love songs coming though.
No criticism of either. No adamant declaration there are not exceptions to both.

When you say their's, is that indicative of ownership?

 

Could you enlighten me as to what body fat has to do with the post of mine you quoted....it is a mystery...

Here it is , with that inconvenient question you haven't answered:

Quote Originally Posted by FoxHastings View Post

"""we are emotionally invested in sex"""......who are you speaking for?

Some women are quite capable of having sex for fun with no emotional investment or involvement and some men get VERY emotional when a woman they consider theirs is having it off with someone else....

Humans are human and each one is different...."""

 

Boys are more at risk for Aurism, blacks are more at risk for Sickle Cell, women are more at risk for breast cancer. Doctors and pharmaceutical companies look at these trends and patterns in hopes of understanding what is happening and how to address it.
Yes, we are individuals and there are exceptions to all the rules.
Do you think men and women are the same psychologically?

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Boys are more at risk for Aurism, blacks are more at risk for Sickle Cell, women are more at risk for breast cancer. Doctors and pharmaceutical companies look at these trends and patterns in hopes of understanding what is happening and how to address it.
Yes, we are individuals and there are exceptions to all the rules.
Do you think men and women are the same psychologically?

 

You still don't know what being on topic is about and still can't answer questions...why do you think you can ask questions and expect answers when you don't?

Nevermind, I really don't care about your ramblings on coins, being a "girl" at 40, body fat, and illnesses.......